Girl dies of low BP,after man cancels marriage due to dowry

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Girl dies after man cancels marriage for dowry

Rewari: A young girl on Monday died of low blood pressure apparently caused due to depression after the boy with whom her marriage was fixed refused to tie the knot as her parents expressed their inability to meet his dowry demands, police said.

 

The family of Kanchan, a resident of Mohalla Meharwara, had arranged her marriage with Saurab, a resident of UP's Hathras town. The wedding was to take place on February 7.

 

The girl's parents had given Rs 7.27 lakh cash and a motorcycle as dowry to Saurab following his family's demand, police said.

 

Girl dies after man cancels marriage for dowry

However, the boy's family on February 5 raised their demand and asked for a car in dowry. Kanchan's parents expressed their inability to meet the demand following which Saurab's family pulled out of the marriage arrangement.

The incident upset the girl and her blood pressure abruptly dipped. Kanchan was rushed to a hospital after her condition worsened but she could not be saved.

 

Her family members said they will lodge a police complaint against Saurab's family for torturing the girl mentally, which led to her death.

http://ibnlive.in.com/news/girl-dies-after-man-cancels-marriage-for-dowry/142815-3.html


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Advocate

Thnk you Roshni B, for posting this unfortunate incidents, its really very hurting to see such incidents taking place in India. Better spread the news to Indin Girls that they marry Nagas especially my tribe who gives dowry to the Girl's parents as  a token of respect to the Girl.


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UNEMPLOYED

When it is ‘a man’, I must find a fault of him.

 
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UNEMPLOYED

Ask her parents –

Why they did not feed their girl child sufficiently, for which she is a patient of low BP?

Do they behave  same with their male child?

 
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For justice and dignity

this news doesnt mention that the girl already had low BP problem.

she died of "shock" becoz she cud not bear to see her marriage cancelled.

 

but people like arup wont understand wot breaking of a heart is.maybe they are not sensible enuf to understand that people can die of shock also,even when there's no disease.

because they are busy "imposing their views" in big,bold coloured fonts,to gain attention,and force others to agree with them.

 

HOW PATHETIC AND MEAN!


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NA

Well said Roshani.  


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Roshni,

 

Very unfortunate reporting of a poor girls loss. I pray for the girls family to give them courage to withstand from this unfortunate early death as per media reporting.

 


Having read the news and making a prudent medical hypothesis on media reporting, I say sudden low blood pressure with no symptoms is almost never serious. Any of the readers may check this medical statement with their GP.


I also add that health problems can occur when blood pressure drops suddenly, and the brain is deprived of an adequate blood supply. This can lead to dizziness or lightheadedness. Sudden drops in blood pressure most commonly occur in someone “who's rising from a prone or sitting position to standing”. This kind of low blood pressure is known as postural hypotension, orthostatic hypotension, or neurally mediated orthostatic hypotension.

 



Postural hypotension is considered a failure of the autonomic nervous system -- the part of the nervous system that controls involuntary vital actions, such as the heartbeat - to react appropriately to sudden changes. Normally, when you stand up, some blood pools in your lower extremities. Uncorrected, this would cause your blood pressure to fall. But your body normally compensates by sending messages to your heart to beat faster and to your blood vessels to constrict. This offsets the drop in blood pressure. If this does not happen, or happens too slowly, postural hypotension results.

 

I am aware you may not buy these arguments based on sound medical principals hence  I also add that the cause of low blood pressure symptoms aren't always clear. It may be associated with the following:

 


- Pregnancy
(ruled out as it is a rural reporting where rural ladies are more socially orthodox)

- Hormonal problems such as an underactive thyroid (hypothyroidism), overactive thyroid (hyperthyroidism), diabetes, or low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) [she may have and only a PM dome on her can establish such]

- Over-the-counter medications (we don’t know from the reporting)

- Overdose of high blood pressure drugs (we don’t know from the reporting)

- Heart failure (may been the case and may have happened may be due to sudden postural hypotension)

- Heart arrhythmias (abnormal heart rhythms) [may triggered]

- Widening, or dilation, of the blood vessels [may triggered]

- Heat exhaustion or heat stroke (ruled out as it is a winter clubbed with rural environs reporting where temp. is +- 7Degrees lower than concrete jungles means nearby urban centers)

- Liver disease (don’t know)

 


Also, if above are medical benchmarks I must acknowledge that sudden drops in blood pressure can be life-threatening.



Well, all the valid reasons may come out with her PM report (which I doubt, just bze in rural areas they cremate their deads without waiting for Police in such incidences, however this comment may not be taken as my only verdict) and what makes me furthermore really sad is that the place is closer to NCR Delhi and yet the dowry eradication programs of NCW and various Social Departments have still not reached the NCR regions leave aside other deep areas. The blame is to be given to Central and State Agencies who gets so much Central grants for forcefully launching Anti Dowry programs in interiors and it is felt that these agencies still need to do more.


I don't wish to comment on 7.7 L as I feel unless their is a mass social movement against it, this traditional customary practice may never be eradicated. Otherway to look is to tax all weddings from Block level to cosmo. cities based on plate system. I am confident this will happen before anything else gets pushed as each State needs ot generate revenue when Central coffers are almost now-a-days empty with all these multi cr scams.


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Done with AIBE

Hurting.......

now why is anyone not talking about dowri prohibition act, it is also a weapon ain't it,

why is that the women gets educated automatically about 498 & DV sections but not about dowry act.... 

why cannot she use it before marriage... but still prefer to get into marriage and suffer and later seek payback.......


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@ Mallik

It seems you missed the main point from the media reporting and other authors takes on the same.


Instead of carrying forward traditional / customary venom into a vial why don't we the educated people open the vial to society and start with mass education and saying NO TO GIVING and TAKING DOWRY.


Automatically down line the very Re. Act / Section(s) will get repealed and or become defunct means unsuable as in todays scenario!


I will give you illustration in real life practice;


I do get invited to weddings in family and friends. Once I am inside the PLACE and I feel means beyond means of either side I just simply walk out. Unfortunately I am the oldest male in my family side and my presence is more important for them but I don’t stay instead a second and I give them the message and of friends circle I started making pigeon holes of those friends whose marriage I don't justify as in SPENT from either side. I keep such friends in different pigeon holes than other friends. Well it is my personal practice and may not match various readers wedding gate crash style but that is the way to show a silent protest to society.


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@ taj jee

My god! I dont believe it!

after seeing taj jee spending a good 25 mins on this thread,i was expecting to see a looong acidic, hitting response.

but ye kya?

you started and ended your lines with sympathy for the girl and evils of dowry system! am i dreaming?

oho! silent protests against dowry system! u never told us that u do this also..

aaj aapne lunch me kya khaya taj uncle,jo aapke baat karne ke dhang badal gaye??

anyways,thanks!

 

@ mallik

you are right.DPA shud apply.but it's not so easy...

parents still HAVE TO PAY DOWRY.becuase if they dont pay there's a possibility that the girl may be harassed after marriage for NOT getting any dowry.so either ways,it's risky.hence they pay dowry to avoid any future harassment

the onus to change this evil lies on boys alone,although you may dislike this statement.

if men openly advertise in newspaper matrimonial ads that they are looking for a girl who will have a dowryless marriage,then only girls will approach such boys without any fear of being harassed post marriage.

since boys dont say so openly,girls end up paying,as they dont know what lies in store 4 them,if they dont pay.

so here u need to understand emotions of girls+their parents....that they dont pay willingly


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