Wife want to come back on conditions

Dear Experts

My wife desserted my approx. 1.5 year back. She used to quarrels with my family members and abused us badly. we have a son also who is living with my wife.

We had two meetings so far involving elders from both families. She want to come back and live with me on the basis of two conditions.

First condition is that i will shift to Delhi and live on rent with her as she don't want to live with my parents. i am doing job in Delhi.

First one ie acceptable, anyway its your wife who is putting condition, its better to agree to condition of wife than later on agree to conditions put by court.

Second condition is that i will not take my son to my parents home( if i visit there once or twice in a month).

Second condition, not acceptable, try to convince  her, I agree to what you say in No.1 you agree that I take kid to see my parents whenever I want, you can accompany if you want.

I have accepted the first condition, so that she should live happy( although staying far from parents is painful).

I understand, its painful.

But i am not ready for second conditons and i said " agar hamara beta dada dadi ke ghar nahi jayega to nana nani ke ghar bhi nahi ja sakta and she said no ........... voh nani nani ke ghar jaroor jayega.

If conditions like these are put, shouldnt meet your parents but can meet her parents, these will rise to tensions at home.

She is very egoistic and adamant girl and want to come back if both conditions fulfilled by me.

Now third option for you.  How long will parents stay? Not long.  Take care of parents as long as they are alive. IF she is not agreeing to come back to you, then why dont you do like this, keep going and meeting her once in a month or once in three months.  Like that you also happy, your parents also happy, she also headache free.

Now what step should i take?. Should i file divorce case against her as she is blackmailing me for making relationship.
Kid there, kid only mend/bend your wife, she become lamb very soon, circumstances will make her a lamb and she follow you everywhere.  Dont file divorce, its one way road, once go inside, cannot come out alive, will come out alone, then custody case, that also is one way road.  Divorce obtaining in india is not easy, MCD if you want , you will have to pay nicely to your lovely wife.  If she contest divorce case, then 5-6 years gone.  Custody case?  For that 5-6 years totally 10-12 years gone + lot of money you have to spend on lawyers fee, also your hair will turn white, your wife will also grow old, even if you get divorce, divorcee title will be conferred upon you, divorcee with a kid?  Takers in market will be very less for you, get rid of kid, wife remarriage chances will be drastically reduced, as nobody likes to marry a baggage who has a baccha.

Further, if you get divorce under contested divorce and if your wife is not working, you will have to pay alimony till the date she remarries again.

These are few things about divorce. 

Further custody of child, child will be put to very extreme mental pressure, and lot of sociopsycho elements will effect the childs growing up.

She has not filled any case till date.
If she files any of the false cases, as that is the trend these days, 125crpc, DV, 498a etc, your days are doomed, you'll be as good as dead man walking. 

Thanks for your valuable guidance.

Regards

Sachin

 

 

 

 

 

My question to Mr. Helping hand.

You wrote"First one ie acceptable, anyway its your wife who is putting condition, its better to agree to condition of wife than later on agree to conditions put by court."

  

How court can order me to accept conditions.................instead court should scold my wife who is putting conditions and blackmailing me.

99.99% court wont ask you to accept your wife's conditions, there are lacs of divorce cases, whom will the judge look into?  To give dates half day they take, and you are talking that court should scold your wife, one thing you have to understand, when there is a difference between hus and wife, and such differences are unresolvable, only then either of them approach to court for seperation, unification has happnd in various cases due to court intervention, but they are very few, can be counted on fingertips.

When I say Court putting conditions to you, it will be via DV case, 498a case, where you will after undergoing huge humiliation still will be forced to cohabit with your wife.

Instead of waiting for that day when your wife will file false cases, find a middle solution as I have described above in my first reply to your query.

Do rounds of the place where wife is staying, somehow carry on the show.

You not ready to accept her conditions, she not ready to come back, ultimately divorce will  happen, and recently there has been a SC verdict where a wife forcing her husband to leave aged parens has been granted divorce.  So it all depends on you, the ball is in your court now.

Court should ask me wife to leave conditions and live  with your husband.

No court can force anyone to oblige/reunite/accept back/reject/throw out etc etc.

pl. share your views..............