I was in a relationship with a girl, I had formally communicated to her before starting relationship that my parents will not agree to marriage and I cannot enter into a relationship. She insisted that in any case She is looking for marriage in her caste, it doesn't matter and she wont cause an issue. She did so for a year, looked some guys, some places her marriage was fixed and broke up. Then she started harassing me to marry. I refused as she has promised me not to harass, she did a lot of blackmailing and offered to commit suicide. Due to fear and good will that a girl life will be gone cos of my actions, even though, I was clear from beginning - I was forced to marry in these conditions to her in a temple marriage. The marriage had some vows but didn't look like typical marriage. Some of the vows like prasada given after marriage wasn't consumed to. All in all it was just for pics that rounds and magalsutra was clicked. There was no one present from my family relatives, friends and only her friends were present. Neither her family or my family were informed of the same. After forcing me on moral grounds to marry even though she was searching for grooms for over an year - the marraige happened and now the scenario is that I am harassed over small things. Like not to talk to female friends, share accounts of my personal id for monitoring, share my phone for checking and when I refuse to do so[I assure you that I am not wrong ]. The marriage wasn't accepeted by her family too as she had intimated that her family wouldn't have an issue but they desserted her. From the day of marriage - we haven't live together and live separately though interact and share a troubled relation where I am constantly harassed. The law has given so much powers to women that She is misusing some of them to harass me and I for the fear of she not committing suicide or doing something wrong to heard my parents or cause them public insult some how have been on the victim side. I have just completed 4 months of misery and understand for applying for a divorce even though marriage is not registered - an year needs to be completed.
1. Since from marriage day itself we are living separately does the duration of asking divorce which should be atleast 1 year of living separately count?
2. If I plan to take divorce by mutual consent[which is a rare case] - what needs to be done and do I have to go to court or lawyers can do it on my behalf since being a non-localite I fear her attitude and also her presently unhappy family?
3. If she doesn't agree to divorce by mutual consent - does my case come under legal divorce clauses. If so what proof needs to be submitted.
4. Isn't harssment too a crime?
Please reply as I am undergoing depression and if this continues will end my life as it's taking toll onmmy life.
I will appreciate any person advising correctly so that in coming months I can take legal route.
NOTE: We are co workers so she creates a ruckus at workspace and i fear loosing my job and loss of respect.
