Hi Respective member,
I would like to get advice from this forum regarding my marriage. Brief story:
I got arrange marriage on mar 2009.Intially my life was going good. My native place is Lucknow and I was working in Delhi. My wife belongs to Allahabad. Before marriage we haven’t investigate too much about her family background. Before one month of marriage my family got to know her brother is fighting the case of divorce with her wife and they never told us, just was blaming to her wife.But we ignore this as we thought when girl will come in our family, she will adjust, why we worried about her family. After one month of marriage life was going on. As I was working in Delhi and my mom and dad was staying in my home town, so I place my wife to lucknow for some time to understand my family, meanwhile I was searching good house to accommodate her in Delhi.
As my marriage was new ,so I don’t want my wife should feel alone for that reason every Friday night I usually travel from Delhi to Lucknow. My mother explain me about her nature she never take interest in house work, awake so late etc .I tried to convince my wife as whatever your habit was in your house, leave that and try to make adjust here. She always says why your mother is not awaking me, that sound very weird. My mother suggest me please take her along with you otherwise our relation will exploit. But I always want she will adjust one day , but that never happen.
One day big incident happened my dad called me in Delhi and said, your wife start abusing your mother and try to mess with my mother, after listing this I got fed up .After 1 hour latter I got called from my wife brother “Hey I know any other affair running with you that why u can’t take my sister and start abusing me. Immediately I catch the train to Lucknow and decide to take her, as she did lot of abuse to my mom and father so I decided at least she should relies her mistake and go with me. As she knew that things if she will not make apologies, I will not bring her so she apologies with my mom and dad and come with me in Delhi. Delhi life was going on and she never takes any interest to call my mom and dad. She used to call her parents minimum 2 hour per day. When I told her you got married why your mom and brother are interfere you life than her though was very different “I know you are caring your mom and dad for money only” God knows I never demand single penny with my mom and dad and never given single penny. They are self capable to do lot of work as both were working and I am the only son of my parent. After spending 1 year in Delhi I got handsome job in Bangalore .I was planning to come to Bangalore so my dad has decided to meet me. Again new dram has happened as Bangalore was new to me so I decided to bring my dad with me, so he will search house from me in Bangalore. My wife has started fight with me why I haven’t told her that I am going with my Dad .Drama went extreme she stated shouting as her nature is so aggressive and then finally her brother has send the police on my rented house. Police has arrived and given advice to my wife don’t break the family. But she was saying I beaten her etc, etc.. Police has gone after written compliant, nothing has happened. I reallocated myself to Bangalore, with my house hold and suggest her I will bring her, after I get house and other stuff. She had gone with her mother. After 2 month lot of discussion abuse has happened and finally I bring her to Bangalore. Life was running on as simple, her nature is so r ridiculous, she always behave untouchability for everything, that is dirty that is wrong etc. As 6 month has been passes away, I gone to my home town to celebrate Deepwali along with my wife after such incident. Things was good till Deepwali , next day again for small issue fight has happened that taken so extreme .Her brother again send police on my house.
Now I want to get suggestion from your forum.
After spending around 2.9 years of marriage she stays with me only 1.2 year. Her family natures are so worst, as her brother is lawyer not so big. Just doing small practice .How can I save my family life. I don’t know might be they people are thinking to take any worst thing for me like 498a.But not sure. My parent staying in lucknow and I am working in Bangalore. I have one sister which is elder to me and got married and living in Delhi.
How can I change my wife nature and make my family life happy. After this Deepwali I haven’t bring her. She is staying with her parent from last 2 month. As I am working in very challenging environment, I am not able to focus my work. My parent ages are above 65.Please help me for the same.