In divorce matters no third person other than the spouces in conflict can settle issues.
Yes, you can go for mediation/conciliation outside court, if both agree for mediation or conciliation process. yes you need to be present but decision will be fast in 3 or 4 sittings and once done you or both of you file the settlement in family court at Bandra if you are a mumbaite or relevant jurisdictional court of you residence in india as it appears you are both from india.
4 sittings can be completed in a month's time,as your issue seems a consent divorce as both want to seperate mutually on agreed terms.
so adopt mutual consent for mediation and for which both need to present your application at the family court where you have your case filed.
yes your advocate will help you to move the application.
adv.dr g balakrishnan , email@example.com... if you need any more clarifications.
advocate(OS) Bombay High Court