Rajesh (SWE) 23 June 2012

Please suggest me

Because of my parents force I got engaged 22 days back.Actually iam not at all interested in marriage.Suddenly my mom fell sick which made me to accept the engagement.From the day i got engaged iam not happy and iam feeling that my whole life has gone blank.Iam sure that if i still continue i will spoil both of our lives.Marriage is still a month ahead.Better than that i first declared this before my parents that am not interested in this marriage.I directly told the girl also.My parents took me to a doctor to find out the problem.Doctor told that iam in deep depression and suggested me not go work for one month and take rest.Even after usage of medicines iam not getting any interest towards that girl.She is still saying i will wait for you until your recovery.Once she declared that i got nervous and my condition still worsened.I cannot imagine her as my life patner under any circumstances.My parents have not taken any dowry from them.But girls parents have asked us to do the marriage and gave us 4 lakhs.We in-turn have given gifts worth rupees 1 lakh during engagement to them and booked a marriage hall by spending 50 thousand rupees.The engagement was done in a function hall with full video coverage.Now iam getting tensed that the girls parents may file a case against me.Iam a government job holder.Can i be arrested for breaking the engagement.Arrest may make me loose my job.Is there any chance for me to escape from not marrying her.Iam feeling that marriage is equivalent to death for me.I know that what ever i have done is ethically wrong.But iam not left with any options now.my email id is dhoopraj@gmail.com

Please help me by suggesting how to go.

Regards,

Rajesh.

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Rama chary Rachakonda (Secunderabad/Highcourt practice watsapp no.9989324294 ) 23 June 2012

Sometimes it can be even harder in the summer’s to make date night happen when you have the kids home from school and activity upon activity filling up your schedule.
But it’s so important to keep dating your spouse.
It’s so important to spend time alone with them every day.
It’s so important to take the time to reconnect with them on a regular basis.
And to be proactive about it. Don’t just wait for time to appear on your calendar. It won’t.
You may have to schedule it in.
That’s okay. Some people mistake couples who literally schedule their dates or their plans for s*x as being unromantic or unspontaneous. Not true. Taking the time to schedule it and plan it shows how much of a priority it is.

Here’s a great date night idea for this summer:
While the weather is nice why not do something simple and relaxing together?
Why not take a drive to a local lake, walking trail, or an area where there are covered bridges?
It’s beautiful, it’s nature, it’s romantic, its free and there are literally no distractions when you do something like this. It’s sole purpose is to enjoy the scenary and to enjoy each other.

So, go for a drive, or a walk, or go find a beach to sit on and draw in the sand while you catch up and reconnect.

You’ll appreciate the time and your marriage will appreciate the TLC.