you filed a complaint CAW.
He seems to have filed for RCR or divorce suit in District judge civil court (it seems that now the matter is pending at Additional district judge -Cvil court, That location not being a metro and no Fam. court estabished there. And as per your text, you have already made first appearance.)
Is husband not attending CAW related sessions of mediation? or for his case in Court for which he isn't intrested for councelling? (He must have filed for divorce...)
Well he has to appear at both places. If he is unwell and not able to go to CAW ..........then how did he manage to appear as a petitioner in civil court? And his parents did attend meeting at CAW and hence CAW has already appropriately informed and given him notice also. A copy of which also he might have obtained to know your complaint details.
If he has said in civil court that he is unaware of any matter in CAW filed by wife, then he is utterly lying to court. Get it on record and catch hold of him. File a purshis about what he told court on previous dates.
But remember that ................. You should not have a conflicting stand.
In civil court you should say that 'he can't tak adv of his own wrongs and first he drove me out by torturing me and compelling me to concede for divorce ................ Tell clear ly that divorce is a stigma .... but in the garb of marriage his cruelsome acts aren't condonable.'
Tell to court that "you need to give a deep thought about marriage .. and only after that you may take a call" .... But if his cruelty makes me take initiative to ask for divorce then 'its like giving a premium to his misconduct.'
In reply to divorce suit ..just say that he can not be allowed to take advantage of his own wrong!!! ........ you are innocent and you are not ready to carry the blame and take the stigma of divorce.
Ask the court clearly ...'if husband says and admits in front of court that ...YES .. I, the husband, was the real culprit and I drove her out of my house .. and thus I need divorce...' only then let the court grant him divorce!!!!' (which is impossible!!) ................... otherwise ............... questions such as "whether I need divorce or not? whether did I condone his cruelty or not?" do not even arise..................... untill I scream about it in offensive mode.
But if court deliberately wants to ignore that ...1) my life is shattered for ever and caused irreparable loss due to wrongs committed by husband and for which hebe rewarded with divorce!!!.... then and then only give him divorce. Whether court grants him divorce or grants me divorce .... for him, either way, it is like a victory!! Whether you eat cake from right side or left side .... it does not matter ...
In this case, If wife is narrating about any of hsband's wrongs ... it is purely in response to husband's divorce plea (as a hot pursuit as a part of retaliations/self defense).... and not as her own initiative to break apart (wife isn't on offensive mode but defensive mode) ... these narrations are merely to expose lies of husband and .... how wife continued and adjusted in the hope that husband at least won't wash the linen in public and considering her parents and etc .... but his acts aren't condoned by wife.
Tell court in writing that 'it is sufficient to say that I am innocent (Burden to prove all allegations is on him) and and I don't need to any additional mud slinging to embitter the matter further!' but it is enough to rebut his allegations with rebuttal evidance if any.
Remember that cruelty (or any misconduct whatsoever) committed from both sides ..... does not get squared off! ......................... So counter allegations in response cause only to deteriorate the matter further!!
So if you want divorce as the final outcome only then and then make new counter allegations in your reply to hisband's divorce petition.