Hi,
I have wrote everything in a detailed manner because I wish I could get the best help here.
I was legally married about one year back. I'am an MBA gradyate,23yrs of age and was not employed at the time of marriage.. The person to whom I was married was a Diploma holder, the only son of a retired parents. He is financially sound. In the initial day of marriage itself they took away my gold ornaments given by my parents at the time of marriage. They pledged it without my knowledge. They wont take me to any functions and if they do so they will be just insulting me over there. They just kept on demanding for more gold or money.
My husband has an inferiority complex for I being more educated than him. After 4 months I joined a job based on my qualifications. He would just speak to others that he is not interested to send me for a job. But will take away my salary as soon as i get it.
He wont take me to a doctor even if I lay ill for days and when I go to my home he wont even give me a call. In the mean time I was carrying, But they didnt allow me to leave my job. They compelled me to go just because they wanted the salary. He was not ready to spend even a penny for me and has no savings with him either.
He comes to bed at midnight usually at 1.30am or so…Till that time he has to chat with his parents. But he would just shout at me if I call my parents atleast once in a day. He just abuses me when my parents come to his home. He is just a doll in the hands of his parents. A person with no love for his partner. There were incidents when I just thought of suicide but didn’t have the guts to do that. He would just say to me that I don’t want to be with you and why don’t we do divorce without any reason even from the initial days of marriage. I do believe that he is not mentally normal.
Atlast when I found they have pledged my ornaments, I somehow got that from them and changed it to a bank locker. They were not happy with that. In the mean time I was 2 months pregnant. My mother in law is a retired Nurse and I believe that she somehow got my baby aborted without my knowledge as they were disturbed with the locker incident. And for them that was more important. I think their intention was to get rid of me and get their son married to another girl.
I didnt say all this to my parents for seven months because they I was sure they wont be able to bear it. But after the abortion I was not interested to go with him because of all these problems. And I talked about this to my parents and decided not to go to his home until I see some change in him.This was in January 2011, seven months after marriage. But he was the worse , he just kept on making stories about me that I wanted him to go to a rented house and was not ready to live with his parents and so and so.
After living separated for about 5 months, there were no contacts between us he filed a petition and I got a notice asking me to go and live with him from the family court. It was received two days back. The marriage was on June 2nd, 2010.
Now I would like to know what can I do. I don’t want to live with him because has been torturing me mentally and physically for seven months and I’m sure he will continue the same. I don’t have any proofs for all these sufferings because I was not expecting all these will happen in future to record them out.
I would like to know:
1. What should I do next?
2. Wont I be eligible for compensation as I’m employed.
I do want to get the best compensation because he has destroyed my life and future. What can be done for that?
3. Should I go to the police and file petition that he has threatened me asking to go back to live with him( He has done that of course , but don’t have proofs.)
4. Can I file a case against them for asking more dowry , is it too late now?
5. How long will it take for me to get a divorce if it is not a mutual consent divorce.
6. If we go for a mutual consent divorce is it that I wont get compensation.
Please do answer these as well as possible as it concerns my life and future.
Look forward to hear from you,
ammu
