I have been sufferin in my marriage physically, mentally and financially. My wife is totally unhappy with me supporting my parents. She keeps her whole salary for herself. She abuses me and hits me at times when I just do not respond when she asks me to stop supporting my parents. She is very confident that if I hit her back that could make a strong case for her to blackmail me.
Earlier everytime I used to help my parents with some money of my salary, she used to go to her parents house and tell me that as long as I do not disassociate myself from my parents. My parents are soft. They used to ask me to go and bring her back. And when I go to her parents house, her father, mother, brother everyone would insult, humiliate me saying I am poor and I do not have enough finances and I should give an account to them about my salary.
This has happened several times, but I used to convince them in one way or the other and bring he rback. Recently when she was pregnant, and my parents decided to have a baby shower for her, my parents went to invite them. At that time her parents have told my parents to stay away from me. My parents quietly agreed and said "as long as they live happily, we are fine". Only when this was agreed my wife and her family agreed for baby shower. They hid this conversation from me. When I realized that something has happened, it hurt me a lot. When my wife then stopped picking my calls, I decided not to call her back as long as she wants me to call her. Her father wanted to play the card of making me come to his house again begging for my wife and kid (yet to be born) thinking that this time since I do not have parents around he can easily squeeze me.
I decided to not go to his( when I arrived from abroad) house and stayed at my place. Then her father came in anger that I did not care to go to bring her back and lied few things and broke the door of my parents house during my presence. I told my wife that this act was totally wrong and told her that as long as he does not apologize, I cannot live with her. She inturn says what her dad did was right and she will not ask him to ask sorry.
I stopped talking to her and one day she asked me to bring out all my anger and startr fresh. I shouted that I could not tolerate the act of her father when he broke the door of my parents house and used bad words. MY WIFE HAD RECORDED THIS AND NOW BLACKMAILS ME INDIRECTLY SAYING, "IF YOU DO NOT LEAVE YOUR JOB ABROAD AND COME TO INDIA, I WILL USE THIS AGAINST YOU".
SHE HAS NOT FOUND ANY EVIDENCE, BUT CREATED ONE. I am not worried but now I do not have even 1% affection (forget love) even for the fact that she is mother of my kid. I want to know if this could be enough for me to apply for divorce. I have few emails where she has taken my money and refused to give me. Insulted me. BUT ON TOP OF ALL OF THAT "SHE LIES TO ME ABOUT ME IN FRONT OF ME AND EXPECTS ME TO LIVE WITH HER ACCEPTING THIS". I really cannot stand her. Please help.