Sorry for the long post, Kindly advice..
Dear Advocates Sir / Mdm,
My case is as detailed.
Me(from chennai) and my wife (from Mumbai) were married since 2006; and lived in Singapore( we found each other through matrimony site). Our family life didnt start well at all. Her first priority was to work and support her parents and insisted me to do the same.
Ever since I married her, (no dowry , all marriage expenses were borne by me), she never supported me All she wanted is to work and support her parents. I had no problem in that but requested her to stablize ourselves first out of the debts and then support our Parents. She never agreed to this but kept on doing things that made me angry and stressed. Even when she was pregnant, she wanted to go for work and suport her parents. We had lots of arguments and disagreements.
When she returned to chennai for delivery, my mother had told many ill things about me and my cousins (Girls).(which was not true). Since then, my wife never trusted me. She refused to understand me.
This all led to stress, tension, arguments. For a year, she refused to return to me and blackmailed for money to be sent to her parents ;if I wanted to see my son ever.(baby was then 3 months).
Both parents were not much interested to resolve the conflicts ass this was not arranged marriage.
I had to get help from my dearest friends many times to resolve the problems. They finally convinced her that they will help to get her a job in Singapore if she returns back. After returning back to singapore, she had to take care of the baby all alone so she agreed not to go for work. All those years were hell as she wanted more than what I can offer. With lots of debt in my back at that tiime, I struggled to give them all they asked for. The debt kept increasing but she was never worried or interested to know how to get rid of it. She was only concerned about her parents and sister. This only created more stress to me that not even my wife was there to support at times of that great trouble.
Finally after 6 long years, she found a job, but I insisted her not to take jobs with less salary as it would only add more expenses to us. (...with the increasing prices......). As there was lots of debt, if she works for less salary, the expenses to put my son in child care would only add more trouble. But she couldnt understand my pioint. Thinking, I was trying to spoil her carrier, she went to singapore poilce and made a false complaint. But Singapore police directed her to take Courts help. However, she went to Indian Embasssy, Singapore seeking help to get her jewels that was gifted by her parents and me including gifts given to my son. Indian Embassy directed me handover the jewels to her as she owns the right. They strictly warned us to return to India and resolve any conflicts and not to seek Singapore Police and court help.
Once she got her jewels back, she never wanted to return back to india but wished to continue her work. starting 2012, we lived in separate rooms. She brought her mother to take of her child as she goes to work. Her mother was trouble creator. I couldnt stand that anymore as it was life threatening. if that would have continued further, either of us would have used violence. However, i decided to wind up everthing from singapore and return back to Chennai. Because she had a job, she wanted to continue her job and living there. But unfortunately, Singapore visa once cancelled by main applicant will subsequently lead to cancell the depends also. So all of our visa was cancelled and asked to return back. She was never ready to talk for any agreement was only talking ill about me to her mother all those days her mother at my home. Her mother was happily listening to all she said and never ready to resolve any problem.
She has spoiled my name in my friends circle by discussing all our family matters and pointing me as the culprit for all the matters. It only led to more problems.
In all those years, I had Rs 25 lakhs in debt before returning from Singapore. All these money was spent for her baby. She was never content with all I did. Even I sent my son to International school in Singapore. ALl these 6 years had been fruitless and troublesome.
I wanted to bring my wife and son back to chennai where we started our family life but she was interested in it anymore. But wrote a mail to Indian Embassy that she will return back to her parents home with my son. She never left the address where she was going nor her contact numbers. Before leaving, she didnt get my contact, address details.
Its been 5 months since we returned from singapore. I have not seen my son since the last day she left. I'm back in chennai and have no job, no home, no property but just surviing with parents and relatives help. I'm sure she will not be willing to return back as she will be happy living with her parents and with her son.
Now, I'm not willing to live her anymore after all that she has done. And also not willing to waste my life looking for her or my son.
As I dont know where she is living (no address nor contact numbers; we dont have mutual friends or relatives also), I wish to end this.
Please advice how to end this marriage without maintenance levied. Kindly advice on the procedures to to get this closed quickly.
Thanks for the advice in advance.
