I am sure experts who have been here and guiding & helping the victims know my case as posted few days ago. Anyways, quick review and my further queries
Jun 2010 - Got married (Arranged marriage both Brahmin family, wife from another small town & I am from Delhi)
Nov 2010 - Wife returns to her parent home on the pretext of meeting parents
Dec 2010- I call her and plann to bring her back, she refuses politely saying she needs to spend some more time with parents
Jan 2011 - Call her again, this time she gets annoyed, refuses again.
Feb 2011 - Call her again, she gets impatient, annoyed, jittery and on some more questioning starts hurling charges of mistreatment. still does not give reason for not returning. I loose my control and give them a piece of my mind and warn that this is my last call and now assume your husband dead if you don't return in a month. Next day she calls me saying that I know you love me & I love you too but I can't return and even can't give you a reason for that. When I will retun and how I will return even I don't know (Height's of responsibility)
Mar - Jun 2011 - No call, no contact. My personal intelligence have indicated her taking admission in one of the colleges in her home district after paying a heavy lumpsum (thank's to FIL fat salary)
Six months of separation with no love & contact involved have been the most cruel & fearful experience of my life but it also has given me a new strength and will to fight the evil mindset come wat may. Against some of your's very logical suggestion, I am still going ahead with my "Divorce Petition" on cruelty. Although I have plenty of proofs supporting my case still not sure about the outcome. But one thing I am very clear "I WON"T LIVE WITH HER WHETHER I GET DIVORCE OR NOT" thats for sure. No worries about XYZ act, it has to come my way if it has to just like my wife who came in my life even though she was no way near to us.
Now the questions?
I haven't been to her city even once, still if she file XYZ from her home time, I would have to go trial in her state?
Is my divorce petition on cruelty can be transferred by her in her home state by SC? If yes, then how can I oppose it or can I bear the cost of her travelling and accomodation expenses during trial here?
If she says that she wan'ts to come and now leave with me whereas now I am not at atl interested in living with her, what should I do or what precaution sholud i take to thwart her stay with me? If I move out of my house, can she still say with my parents or she has to come to me? Please advise.
All in all, all I am asking and doing is driven by one single fact "I don't exist for her anymore" & being a fauji, I believe that "If I cannot respect my decision, I cannot respect anyone or others"
Women are very imporatant and inseparable part of each of us life in one way or other "Wife, Mother, Sister" and must be respected in all its form.
However, as the saying goes "Triya Charitra, Maha Vichitra - No body has ever understood women", I believe sometime its our humble duty to check the meance created by handful of pseudo-feminist psyche even if it means one has to sacrifice his comfort and youth. Let me take the lead and I believe everyone should do that ( Please this is not applicable to guys who have not been honest in their relationship or who have acted wrong and are there in forum to defend and at the same time it is not against any girl who is a real victim and is here for help)
Will wait for some insight and suggestions against my marked questions.