sandhya (house wife) 18 October 2014
Satyadarshi Kunal (advocate) 19 October 2014
Thank you for your question. I have done many such cases and I find one problem with the queries posted by my clients. That problem is that they are not very clear that what is the exact purpose of seeking legal action against their spouse. Thankfully you sound a bit more clearer than general divorce litigants are.
I understand that your efforts are towards saving your marriage, but you shall be carefull towards the legal actions which might be taken by your husband. You should definitely respond to the legal notice, no matter what is going there alternatively. Had he been interested in getting issues resolved at MC, he would not have excercised any alternate channel. Further, fortunately, breaking marriages are not very easy in India, specially for husbands. So, be assured that whatever you do at this moment, nothing is going to affect your case adversely. Let me know if you are not satisfied with this generalized answer or you need any further clarification in this regard. I wish you all the best for saving your marriage and wish that everything resumes to normal between you and your huband.
sandhya (house wife) 19 October 2014
Thanks for your answer sir.
Suppose my husband will file divorce under grounds of cruelty is there any problem for me really doesn't tortured him but he was telling like that he was trying to give a divorce that's why he went a divorce advocate she is a famous and export in a divorce cases. I love my husband i don't want to give divorce what can i do for saving my marriage.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate (Advocate) 20 October 2014
In the event of your husband initiating a divorce suit, you challenge the same properly and refuse all the allegations, if they are not facts. Take the help of a prudent lawyer to defend your case.
sandhya (house wife) 28 October 2014
My MC on 27 oct 2014 first hearing is there they give me date for 5 nov 2014.But my husband talked with me he told whatever will happen that is our fate now onwards we will live happily he was convencing like that i told with him i can't live that house we should live seperate he doesnt told any thing about that.on next hearing how can i talk in court please advice me why asking this question means my advocate is giving me a wrong suggestions he was telling me give him divorce i can arrange MCD. My advocate is forceing me a lot why i dont. Now he was telling he will not come for next hearing alos if you can agree for divorce means i can come to court he was telling like that i dont have a money to keep another advocate.But i dont want divorce i want to live with my husband. But outside of my inlaws house why because they will harrasing me a my husband what they will tell he can do that only. If we will live seperate means he can change .Please tell me how can i talk in court for next hearing.
It appears that you want the marriage to continue.
But your husband is having ego issues or is old fashioned, he wants wife to adjust in his parents house and loves his parents very much and wants you to adjust with his parents and continue marital life with them there. He expects you to understand him and continue with him like this.
When husband is expecting you to adjust, you should adjust along with him the way he wants it.
Its married life, one has to adjust with the other. he may say no to something which you like, you may say yes to something he does not like. Adjustment is name of game. You have told your stand that you want to go seperate from parent-in-laws, but he does not seem to care, if both of you are stubborn, then marriage will break.
Dont worry about judge etc, you keep talking to him in court too, or outside of court, and try to make him understand the need for going seperate from parent-inlaws, if he wont agree, then forget going seperate and reconcile with him by agreeing to his terms and conditions.
I pity your situation, you are ready to reconcile, but your husband is not. Somehow try to convince husband, you can also ask judge to send you to mediation where you can talk freely with your husband. All the best.
sandhya (house wife) 29 October 2014
But my husband father is not there her mother gave a divorce.She was trying to seperate us why i dont know. I have a problem in that home. I adjusted in that home 3 times but again again they are creating so much of problem.my husband maternal uncles also staying in that home only. My husband sisters also staying behind of my in-laws home that both sisters also coming and creating me a problems.What they all are telling he was doing that only that is my problem.If he will come outside of his home means he can change.I dont want to break my marriage.my next hearing date of mc is 5 th november.In that day lokadalath counseling is there.Now my husband was sending me messages I love You so much like this he was sending me messages also.Please tell me how can i talk in lokadalath can i ask i can live out side of my linlaws house.
SuperHero (Manager) 13 November 2014