Divorce or not to divorce

Its your life... What you want. Matters...long distance relation is heck...she is upset missing u every second....its like solitary confinement and when u CME to her she needs ur intention...my advise is just to understand her mental distress..what she has in her heart for u...rather you can take help of counsellor if nthng works let the divorce be last option....for further guidance you can pm me

There are two options. first one for the sake of future of children husband should spend more time with his wife. Because in absence of husband she might in stress as all responsibility of children and everything is on her. It may be difficult her to manage all thats why she may behave like this . When husband loose all his patience then Second option husband should record all call and take video's of her behaviour. With the help of these save videos,calls,sms husband can file divorce.

Thank you very much for the reply.

There is no such thing as solitary confinement, as she like to be alone, even with husband shadow she get irritated. she want to get up at her own time and do things, i seen million men work abroad and comes once in a two years, their wives are not complaining nor they are unhappy; Even some men do not send money properly also.

She is not listening to her family; as she has no Father or Brother; They are not well to do family, they were in Rented house before. she has mother and Married elder sister.

Husband asked her sister to arrange for counselling but she is not doing anything may be she is not listening to elder sister or both beleive husband is harassing her or they have some other motive to make money.

Husband has all recorded Audio / Video and her SMS as a proof.

1. Husband should move the children out of the house n move them to his sister or parents house which is preferably in a different city. He should put them in a school in that different city. 2. Then, he should wait for the wife to initiate legal proceedings. Maybe wait for upto a max of 1-2 years, not more.

When husband asked before marriage, why she want to marry; she said after her Mother no one is there for her at her old age; thats why she want to marry. once children born, she started to tell i will take the children and make you die alone. Children are too small; less than 5 years; As per i know till they are 5 Father cannt take them away from Mother. correct me if i am wrong. Husband do not want his children to be raised by single parent. He gave her option that he will buy house in town as she like to be stay in Flat and pay their expenses; right now she is in 4 bedroom villa. if Husband stay away from wife with Children, she may file desertion case and get the maintenance too. she was working and educated. She already consulted lawyer about the issue but lawyer did not give her proper solution, as husband has prenuptial agreement signed before marriage that there is no Dowry given or taken as all expenses paid by husband. and there is no Domestic violence from husband side. She is not aware that her Attitude may leads to Divorce and get nothing; unless she made to understand by Police / Court. is there any procedure or legal remedy to do that ?

CAn Father take away children from mother if they are less tha 5 years old ?

You should be very careful and act wisely...

Why dnt husband act wisely and when he goes out of country he takes his family. Why dnt he live in other country with family. Might be After sometime wife will become normal. Problem will be solve. By taking child from mother he will do wrong with child.

Simply paying money giving bang low is not enough . She and her children need her husband not his money. Husband should give family time spend time with them. Take them with him. You already said husband dnt want children to be raised by single parents. Tell me if husband comes once in year then are children are not raised my single parent. Husband only spend money who raised them?

1) If no police/court cases have been filed at this time, block all legal websites from your computer. 

2) Go to a marriage counsellor and give it a few months of honest effort. Try to identify the stories running in both your minds and allow a different picture to emerge. You may find ways to bring harmony in the marriage. Alternatively you may find a way to separate amicably on mutual terms. 

3) Stay away from lawyers and their advice. They will never be able to solve any problem you have. Court cases will only create more problems and suck all the joy of your life. 

@Niki;

He took her abroad, thats middle east; and there she cannt go out alone do her things as she wish.

once 3 months visa expired; when she came back, she told she just released from 3 months jail and never be back again.

and she was grumbling that she has to get up early to make breakfast; and once he woke her up when he came from office hungry at 3PM, she made big issue out it saying he hit her with elbow to woke her from her slumber sleep.

Husband comes 4 times a year, and there million men who work abroad comes once in 2 years. There are more than 3 million Indians work in middle east and majority are low wage workers who get Ticket and passport once in 2 years

@autohide147;

Thank you very much for superB reply.

so far no case is filled; she just give threats. and she knows husband will not do anything coz he loves children very much.

only problem is she is not ready to listen to anyone or she admit that she has problem in her; she always blame husband, telling its his fault always because he Divorced once. Ignoring fact that earlier one had Affair, that led to divorce but she dont beleive husband version.

recently she told she is in contact with Ms.Ex and after she got Internet connection in her mobile she started to act weird and spend night online. even i saw her whatsapp timing at 2am.

for sure she is misled by some Feminists, there are plenty Sadist Divorced online.

@Captain

I know Police will not arrest; but for sure she will make big drama, shouting crying in nieghborhood and attempt to suicide saying i abet

In India if wife kill her husband when he catch her red handed with her lover, that our law term as SHE ACTED IN HER DEFENCE.

and if same lady attempted to suicide then it termed as husband abet her by finding her extra marital affair

THATS OUR GREAT INDIA judiciary.

yesterday i read a news HC saying filling false case on her husband is not cruelty

Thank you everyone for valuable advice; She already attempted to Suicide and latest 2 months back she told same thing, when i went to mother house; she said if i go again she will jump to lake with Children. Should i report this to police ?