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Jatinder Sheoran (Sr. Manager)     20 April 2015

Divorce

Hi,

I need some suggestions on family dispute. I’m married for 6years with a kid (4Year old). We both are working and are financially independent – my wife bought the house where we live before our marriage and she literally told me this many times (Saying I don’t have anything – or – I’m nothing, literally).  We do not have any re'lation from last 2years and living like strangers in same house.

Base line of problem between us: My wife wants me to leave my parents and brothers family and live with her and listen to her parents for any financial or any other decision – additionally, she wants me to take care of all the expenses and when we discuss savings then she tells me that you didn’t save anything and all the savings she has belongs to her and I can’t take any decision on that money – the financial decision maker in our family is my father-in-law.

My parents stayed with me for around 1yr 8months when my kid was born to take care of him – she decided to put him in day care and asked my parents to leave. It’s been more than 2yr she didn’t allow my son to meet my parents.

On the top – she keeps threatening me of Domestic Violence case whenever we have heated discussion. Yesterday, her father threatened me to Dowry case mentioning that he will put me, my parents and my brothers family (Staying in US – from last 4years) behind the bars if I don’t listen to them.

I might sound fool in this situation but I’m staying in that house because of my Son only.. and was trying to improve our relation. Now I reached my limit and want to file divorce case (Which she is not agreeing to – so it’ll not be a mutual agreement situation). I even suggested to call all the relatives and sort it our for once or even go to a marriage counsellor but they are not in agreement with any of this - probably internally they know who is wrong.

I want a separation but need the permission to meet my son - I know it would be very difficult to take the custody. I can separate up any time now but if I do so without court's permission to meet my son then My wife and her family will not allow me to meet my Son AT ALL.... 

Please suggest on how to proceed in this case.

Thanks! Jatin



 4 Replies

Adv. Chandrasekhar (Advocate)     20 April 2015

If you have finally decided to file a divorce case, there is no need for me to talk about mediation and involvement of elders, blah..blah.  You can file divorce case on the  ground of cruelty and she is not entitled to maintenance.  You also should file simultaneously for child's custody case and in that move an application for visitation rights to meet your child at regular intervals.  Also be prepared that she will file DV case, S.125 maintenance case for herself and child (even though she is not entitled for her, but you should pay maintenance for the child) and if she is much revengeful, may file S.498-A case.  But do not deter.  file divorce case.

Jatinder Sheoran (Sr. Manager)     20 April 2015

Thanks Chandrasekhar Sir,

Should I first separate up and then file divorce case or can I file something while staying in same house. Some intimation report that I want to separate up and request permission to meet my son on regular basis. If I separate up and file a case it can take 3-4months to get legal permission to meet my son – my son is my emotional weakness and that’s the reason I have not filed divorce till date.

I’m mentally prepared for DV, Dowry and maintenance cases however there is no ground for it – I have live (Cruel) conversation recording with my Wife and my Mother-in-law’s telephonic conversation – I purposefully asked her if we demanded anything in marriage or after that which she denied completely.

Jatinder Sheoran (Sr. Manager)     20 April 2015

I'm reading a lot on the possible proceeding to start with.

Per my readings, I guess, I can file a case under Section-10 of Hindu Marriage Act - basis Cruelty.

Can you please suggest how to proceed in Section-10 (Judicial Separation) - What all proofs can I produce under this section - as I mentioned previously - I have a recoding which supports my petition..

Adv. Chandrasekhar (Advocate)     20 April 2015

S.10  allows the existence of husband and wife relationship, each spouse will not have any right or duty against the other spouse. The grounds to get judicial separation are same like divorce, people will not opt for judicial separation.  In your case also, if you get judicial separation, then you are not entitled to live under the same roof with your wife, in whose name the house is titled.  So, forget it.  Also, I suggest that if you want to get divorce, it is better for you to move away from the wife's house and file it along with custody case and bear with the child's separation for a few months.  Living under the same roof with the wife and filing divorce may put you in precarious situation, if she is vengeful and file a physical assault case in which you may be put behind the bars.


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