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Manju Gautam (xcasvsv)     14 August 2011

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Hi, Mera Naam Mrs. Manju Gautam(MA(Economics)) hai. Meri shadi 22 February 2004 ko Dr. S.P. Gautam(MBBS) ke sath Family ki marji se arrange hui thi. Us waqt mera MA(Economics) final year chal raha tha. Gharwalo ko ladka pasand aa gaya isiliye meri shadi is ladke ke sath ho gayi. Meri shadi ke 6-7 months tak mujhe meri parents se milne bhi nahi diya gaya tha, even meri engagement ke baad hi Dr. S P Gautam mujhse shadi todna chahta tha, but pata nahi uski family ne use kya samjhaya ki usne mujhse shadi finally kar li. Pehle hi din Maine Conceive kar liya tha. Is doran mujhe mara bhi jata tha aur daraya bhi jata tha, mujhse paiso ki bhi demand ki jatai thi, par main kisi ko bhi nahi bata pati thi, ek to majboori thi doosra mujhe phone tak par baat nahi karne di jati thi. main kya karti? mera 8th month chal raha tha ki mere sasural walo ne mujhse ladayi ki aur mujhe mere ghar chodkar aa gaye.. 15 dino tak mujhe na kisi ne ph kiya aur main ph karti thi tab bhi ladayi karte the. uske baad kafi relatives ko bulaya gaya kyonki mere husband mujhe divorce paper bhejna chahte the. phir sab rishtedaro ko bulaya gaya. sabne inko samjhaya aur mujhe bhi tab hume jabardasti sasural bheja gaya.. Main yahan aa gayi . jaise taise karke mere bade bete ka janam hua. Tabhi Mere husband ka selection NTPCL mein ho gaya aur inka pehla hi transfer Mumbai (Tarapur) ho gaya. wahan ek saal tak to hum theek reh rahe the, but ek din beech mein ye ghar (delhi) aaye. uske baad jab ye wapic gaye to inhone bahot ladayi ki. mujhe mara bhi aur galiyan bhi di. phir bas aise hi chalne laga jab bhi ye apne ghar mein baat karte the mujhse ladte bhi the aur marte bhi the mujhe. Phir inka transfer hua Narora, yahan aane ke baad to ladayi badhni aur jyada ho gayi. yahan inhone humen (mujhe aur bachcho ko) hume khana dena tak band kar diya . matlab ye ghar mein khane ke liye rashan tak nahi laate the. har baat par dhamki di jati thi ye kehkar ki jakar paise kamakar lekar aa, kyonki ye to mere paise hain aur mujhe koi bhi support nahi kiya jata tha. meri beti bhi hui yahan aakar. . bachco ko bhi khoob mara inhone chaaku dikha dikhakar marte the. meri family walo ne mujhe humesha yahi kaha ki beta tu sun le iski koi baat nahi ye tera husband hai. tab maine decide kiya ki ab main B.Ed. kar loon taki main bhi kuch kama sakoon aur isse ghar mein kuch help ho sake. maine isnse bola to bolne lage ki kain jakar randi banja aur kamale paise tere baap ne yahan paise lakar nahi diye jo tujhe main B.Ed. karwaon. Kafi jhagde ke baad mujhe laga ki main apne parents se hi help le leti hoon. mere parents se baat hui to unhone kaha ki hum kahin se udhar lekar tumhe B.ed karwa denge to ye bhi maan gaya. aur isne mujhe jane siya. phir jab mujhe padhne ke liye time chahiye tha tab isne ladayi karni start kar di hume koi bhi rashan vagairah dena band kar diya. 3 ya 4 month se main apne parents se jo paise milte the usi se rashan lakar bachcho ko khana khila sakti thi. maine inko pyar se samjhane ki bhi bahot koshish ki, par ye nahi mana. tab maine inke hospital mein baat ki ki mujhe problems ho rahi hai. wahan society ki hi ek union hai. baat un logo tak bhi gayi , un logo ne bhi inhe bahot samjhaya par ye nahi mane. ab baat bahot badh chuki hai ye mujhe mentally tor char kar raha hai. ye mujhe dhamki bhi kai baar de chuka hai ki ye mujhe slow poison ya mental hone wali medicine bhi khila dekha aur ek din pagal sabit kar dega. main bahot pareshan hoon. akeli hoon . mere paas paise ka bhi koi sapport nahi hai. please meri help karen. main kya karun kahan jaon, kal mujhe ye bhi pata chala hai ki iska kisi ke sath affaire bhi chal raha hai. main toot chuki hoon mujhe kuch nahi samajh aa raha ki main kya karun? please koi meri help karo. Thanks & Regards -- Manju Gautam 8860139010


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Saurabh..V (Law Consultant)     14 August 2011

@Author

 

I really DO NOT believe in your story at all. This is another instance of exaggeration and stupidilty of woman.

 

Simple lacunas in above post:

 

Gharwalo ko ladka pasand aa gaya isiliye meri shadi is ladke ke sath ho gayi

Parents might have seen somethin better in the guy that is why they happily married @Author to him. Don't know how a newly wedded wife be tortured for no cause at all.

 

even meri engagement ke baad hi Dr. S P Gautam mujhse shadi todna chahta tha

How did @Author came to know about this. And if somehow she did, then why she didn't just moved on and away from this marriage. Would any parents marry their daughter to a person whom they like but the boy doesn't want to marry? I think NO!

 

par main kisi ko bhi nahi bata pati thi, ek to majboori thi doosra mujhe phone tak par baat nahi karne di jati thi. main kya karti?

Why couldn't she tell anyone? If a road-side-romeo harasses a girl, she would immeditely tell her mother if not at the first instance but atleast when it happens second time. Here the Author states she was beaten and it was her eighth month. Still she is imaginarily showing helplessness? Unbelievable! In a country, where women files 498a etc., within 10days of marriage, the Author does not tell to her parents?

 

yahan inhone humen (mujhe aur bachcho ko) hume khana dena tak band kar diya . matlab ye ghar mein khane ke liye rashan tak nahi laate the

This is the most stupid line out of above allegations. Would a MBBS bring ration or buy grocery etc., from hi-tech strores? Moreover, from where would he eat his food? So Lame!!!!

 

meri beti bhi hui yahan aakar

Even after so much beatings and abusing, they had regular s*x life. Amazing couple yaar...!!

 

bachco ko bhi khoob mara inhone chaaku dikha dikhakar marte the.

I do not understand the reason behind such alleged behaviour of highly qualifed person. A doctor is behaving like lunatic as alleged. Now either the doc. is really mad or the reasons for this post is obvious!!

 

mere parents se baat hui to unhone kaha ki hum kahin se udhar lekar tumhe B.ed karwa denge to ye bhi maan gaya

Loan for a 2yr course that too B.Ed.? How much does this cost? Nothing more than 20-30k. Yet the parents says they would take loan. The girl is M.A (Economics). How did she completed her studies then? And her marriage? What absurd remarks by Author. Totally unbelievable!!

 

phir jab mujhe padhne ke liye time chahiye tha tab isne ladayi karni start kar di hume koi bhi rashan vagairah dena band kar diya.3 ya 4 month se main apne parents se jo paise milte the usi se rashan lakar bachcho ko khana khila sakti thi.

Repeating same general allegation about ration.

 

Author is intelligent enough to talk to "Union" members of her husband's hospital but so novice to not to disclose the same atrocities to her own parents. Also she is so hi-tech that she is has access to internet and make posts online but is so amateur that she is dependent on ration.

 

Let's see how my "feminist" colleagues represent and reply to this post !!!! (INTERESTING REPLIES AWAITED)

 

Just an innocent question to Author::

Aapke vakeel ne kuch achhi complaint nahi banayi hai. Kisi doosre vakeel ko pakadiye aur zara strong complaint banvaiye. Is complaint se to main bhi "convince" nahi hua, to Judge sahab kya honge? :P

 

//peace

/Saurabh..V

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Manju Gautam (xcasvsv)     14 August 2011

Mr Saurabh,

Ye jo bhi likha hai Manju ne nahi maine (unki sister) ne likha hai. Mujhe jitna samajh aaya likh diya sirf  thode educted logo ki advise lene ke liye. ye kisi lawyer ne nahi likha hai. aur na hi ye koi case hai jise court mein jana hai. Meri sister shadi mein in problems ko khatm karna chahti hai , naaki Apne husband ko saja dilwana..

Apne poori baat theek se padhi nahi hai.. Dobara padhna aur reply karna.

Abhi aap lawyer bane bhi nahi ho. pehle theek se padhayi kar lo. Baad mein advise dena.

Yahan maine isliye ye sab post kiya bcz mujhe laga ki shayad yahan koi didi ki prob ka koi solution bata paye.

Ye check karo "

Hi All,

I am writing this on my sister in laws behalf, her husband is a real pain and does not support her at any point. Her husband is a Doctor by profession but acts like totally an illitrate person. They have two kids (6 Years - Boy and 2 Years - Girl).

From the first day of marriage she was treated as a prisoner at home and was beaten up & abused throughout the day. Even now after 7 years of marriage the home environment is still the same. She doesn't get any support from her in-laws.

She wants to study further but gets no support from her in-laws family. Now her husband wants her to get money from her parents so that he can buy a flat. He abuses her whole day and do not provide her food or daily neccessity items. At times he even excreates on bed and ask her to clean it and do not provide any financial support at any time.

During the tenure of 7 years he has left her multiple times at her parents place and has threatned her for divorce. As per his collegues in the hospital, he is mentally sick and has the same behaviour at his work place.

She is really suffering a lot in his day to day life and in upbringing of her children.

Please suggest. I eagerly look forward to your reply.

Thanks and Regards,

Help Seeker".

 

Ye bhi usi prob ka part hai jo maine abhi discuss ki hai, pehle bhi ye post kiya gaya hai.

Didi ne 7year se jyada tolerate kiya hai, but ab baat bachcho ki bhi hai. Wo bas ape bachcho ko khushiyan dena chahti hai.

Regards

 

 

Help Seeker

girish shringi (advocate)     15 August 2011

Why are people suffer like this when Law is with them.

Didi ko samjhao,dare mat aur police mein complaint kare agar woh himmat nahi juda pati to aap unki taraf se kare aur aap bhi nahi kar sakti to Nari seva sansthan her shaher mein hain agar wo bhi nahi ho to bejhijjhak mail kare mujhe puri detail ke sath :girishshringi@gmail .com

Aap bhi jis bhi shahar mein ho hum gujarat se direct police complaint kar denge. Is desh mein abh bhi agar aisa hoga to 64 saal ki azadi kis kam ki.

Girish Shringi

(Advocate)

Female Activist (housewife)     15 August 2011

hi manju,
y do u even answer such sh*t loads who don't understand ur problem. this is a clear case of man abusing woman and would come under dv. if u lodge a complaint with lil bit of evidences, the doctor would come wagging his tail behind you. u know, if u go to any lawyer, he would make u write few things in complaint, which would look good to u, as u will think more allegations means the doc would be in mor fear, but with time these big stories will turn into a problem for urself. exaggirations should be avoided and consistancy should be maintained. if u need any help, pm me or right to female.activist@gmail.com. and i m ready to help any woman who has a true case. avoid pitfalls, learn and give them back

girish shringi (advocate)     16 August 2011

Congratulate!

Female activist,for showing your willingness to help a woman in need of support.

Manju Gautam (xcasvsv)     16 August 2011

Hi,

Thanks to all.

Didi ne police mein complain bhi kar di hai aur lawyer se bhi baat ki hai. ab situation under control hai. I hope dheere dheere sab theek ho jayega. Abhi tak humare parents involve nahi the kahin bhi but ab humne papa mummy ko bhi bata diya hai, aur aap logo ke suggestion se kafi help bhi hui hai. Final decision jo bhi ho, I will infor m you all.

Thanks & Regards

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girish shringi (advocate)     17 August 2011

god bless you.

Wish you all the best.

Himmate marda madede khuda.


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