Let us for a change take the "gender discrimination" from social expetations way!
Today’s couples have failed to lift the fog of distrust and chaos, which environ their relationship. The ever-increasing divorce cases, owing to marital discords, demand national attention from the custodians of society. Why it’s that the vows taken at time of tying the nuptial knot become a thing of zero interest just within few months of marriage? The social scientists need to evolve means that infuse better values in one of the most respectable institutions carved by our forefathers.
Unfortunately, reckless behaviour patronized by the women’s organizations and purely commercial considerations of professional legal community members threaten to engulf the sanctity of marital bonds. Individualistic life style can / will always come in the way of developing mutual respect for each other. It’s quite clear that new laws introduced to keep the rights of woman intact have started breaking homes!! I mean they have led to zero-tolerance level among women, who are using them for all the wrong reasons. We all know damn well from the neighborhood how empowered women uses IPC S. 498a / DV Act to destroy every 16th. neighborhood home. It is sad to know that your next door aam adami do get the bail but the experience has made all these aam adami sad and demoralized thinking is there anything in setting up a family for me?
Some introspection:
a. Feminists harm the causes of women more than men’s attitude towards them.
b. Overkill of Saas-Bahu serials in the Indian tube in the past decade have changed the Indian woman’s mentality. A 14-yr-old girl who watched Tulsi Virani in 2000 is now 24 and probably married. She is being fed about marriage what the producers dished during her formative years and not what her mom imbibed in her. Of course, her mom tuned on to the channels while she joined them. Can’t blame any one though.
c. Being educated doesn’t mean to be haughty or promiscuous. Unfortunately, increasing number of Indian females believe that way. Both the things are perfect recipes for marital discord. India is not the West after all that it is dramatically being forced changed into!
d. A little dominance over the wife by the husband would solve many problems. If a woman wants to keep her family intact and happy, she should willfully accept it. Else, a shout for a shout will turn the home into a boxing ring.
Even the men need to understand that times have changed. They should provide healthy space to women. However, the role reversal has given to all sorts of problems as we are still not clear about division of work. Recently, we saw how children in Mumbai committed suicide. One of the chief factors behind such incidents is lack of understanding and adjustment between the couples. That never allows them to take care of children since all the time they are busy solving their own problems. Since both of them are working, the child is usually is at the mercy of God (kaam wali bai). The child is bound to take wrong steps because he / she is devoid of skills of offering resistance to wrong emotions.
Unless marriage is kept above contract based perceptions vis-a-vis sentiments echoed by the Hindu scripttures it would be impossible to think of better future for modern time marriages. Indians waste so much money in marriages only to waste more money in unnecessary legal cases. It’s really a comical development. A little application of brain and some scope for role of samskaraas will definitely save the Indian marriages thus regain their lost splendour.
I think there is a huge confusion regarding the work distribution arena too. Now it’s a huge shame for women to work indoors. Everybody is interested in turning into a working women. Look at the matrimonial adv. it says earns in 5 figures (urban adv.) and anything below is innocent homely girl (rural adv. say Tier II n III cities) ! Because that is in tune with the times and it also very well in tune with wishes of the feminists too !!
I recently read that French government is going to introduce laws that will deal with psychological violence against women. No need to tell readers here that they be soon introduced in India as well !! More confusion. More disorder. More Hare Rama Hare Krishna and Joginis in the making…..
Let woman be on the top !! A aam adami may not have any problems with that as long as that does not lead to a home on fire !!
I remember one of the recent advice of Hon'ble Supreme court that says "keep the wife happy if you are interested in bringing stability in your home"…….Lordships, I believe in law kya karey "compensation" aur "direct taxation" ka jama aay gaya hai.
Time for petticoat influence to rule the roost !! But have a fire station within realm of each Indian home too is aam adami modest take !!
Sadly, we are living in a country wherein to talk about old order of Hinduism is an unpardonable crime in the eyes of secular dogs read with feminists influence to cloud normal aam adamis natural instincts for survival ! However, one thing should be clear to all of us: Laws cannot be effective in absence of collective will to promote mutual trust and sense of well-being in the family.
PS.: ”Murgi Ka Jaane Ande Ka Kya Hoga, Life Milegi Ya Tave Pe Fry Hoga Koyi Na Jaane Apana Future Kya Hoga.......”
Amen……keep walking and talking…......…
