i was married to a software engineer ( MCA ) guy last july 14, it was a arranged marriage.after marriage from day 2 of the marriage the boys mother had taken all my ornaments ( except mangal sutra and maariage ring) given to me from my parnets side and as well as from their side. As i was new to the environment, i didnt say anything. I was working in a PSU on contractual basis at gurgaon and my husband working at Delhi, so after marriage we shifted to Gurgaon. All the household things like A/c TV, Fridge, bed , pillows, and other household items were asked and taken by boys side saying that you are giving all this to your daughter only.i was having car before marriage and i have maintained it to myself.
The boy has been paying the house rent (18K) , electricity bill (900-1000 rs for 2 months) and water bill, other expenses like household things , milk , cloth ironing, car expenses are being taken care by me.
during our weekend visits and From the first week of the marriage the boy and his family( which includes his mother elder brother , and younger sister) have been mentally abusing me on my phsical attributes, or on my cooking skills ( even though i cook quiet well).
Afetr 1 month of my marriage , one day mother called her elder brother, who caught my hand and said i am a palmist and you have a chances of getting son ,, so you should give us son child by next year june 2015, even though i was offended , i maintained my poise and said Mamaji, its all in gods hand, to this he lit his bidi smoking over my face (boys mother sitting and watching everything in front of me) no you have to make efforts and you have get us the child by next june...i hope u r understanding.
I was furious , as i was not supported by any one , the boy was sitting the next room and didnot say anything about this, (fact was that our marriage had not consummated till now, and boy has never tried to talk about this when we were either alone) , when i protested and said that i didnot like his mamaji behaviour , and its we 2 's decision to have a child or not no body else can speak to me like this, he became furious and packed the luggae and staretd for gurgaon.
After reaching there he totally stopped communicateing with me , and stopped taking me to their house, his mother didnopt call me from day 1. I was getting all houise hold things on my on ,paying for maid , he will wake me up at 5 am i will cook for him like a maid wash his cloths. He would come home watch tv and sleep off ,. there was no communication between us. He never took me out except for honeymoon trip to North east ( it was a 2 time meals( morning and night) in the make my trip pakage afternoon meals were skipped by him because of his stingy nature), he never or gifted me on any occassion( my bday came), iwas finding it suspicious, later i came to know that is elder brother has been married 3 times earlier and gor seperate d from previous 2 wives by allegating the same (not cooking well, not washing well) depriving them finacialy.
1) Boy and his family has hided other facts like their father is staying nearby and not a drunkard.
2) The mama was not a real mama , and his mother is having a affair with him.
3) Marriage of his elder brother.
4) All relatives brought in the maarriage showing as bhuaji, massi, mamaji were actulally not real , and we weer made to give them gold and other gift items.
When my Parents confronted the boy about his behaviour initially he improved and after 3 nad half month of marriage on their insistence he consummated the marriage,but after 15- 20 days boys behaviour remained the same , like not speaking for months , not taking me or wishing me on any festivals like deepawali, or new year , not bringing any house hold things , using my car without filling the petrol etc.
Jan 15 i conceived, AS the boy was not in speaking terms with me my father broke the news to him in March 15 , thinking that it will change his behaviour, but after knowing the boy said that i m shoked and his behaviour became worst.
He refused to go to doctor for routine checkups, or arrange basic household things, like at days their was no water in the house or electricity.
Boy is not eating any food at home since april 15 and takes his cloths for washing to his house on weekends.
No other support is being given to me from him or his family side, Mean while i had lost my job due to health issues .
I got the job at another placve but i have to commute daily at his stage of pregnacy. I am aaranging food , water and everything for myself on my on. All doctor expenses are being done by me .Boy never asks me for any help , when i as ked him to arrange for water as their was no water in the tank , ( it doesnot get stored) he asked me to fetch the water from outside tap ( fresh water supply morning 600 am to 7:00 am ).
Dear sirs i would like a dvise that int his situation what are my legal rights, what if he stops paying house rent too ( which is the last support i am getting from him) , he is earning fairly good and working in a reputed company as senior software developer. what is the process of claiming maintainence or other benefits ( i m still working , but on contract basis , with no maternity benefit of any sort)