(1) Since the wife even after your mutual efforts is not willing to come and reside with you at your place then The provision of Section 9(3)of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 specifically demands the restoration of the rights formerly enjoyed by the couple's parties. The Hindu law test refers to the concept of "let mutual fidelity continue until death," and if either spouse withdraws from it and leaves the society without a particularly compelling reason, the burden of proving the authenticity of the statements mentioned in the petition falls on the concerned spouse, after which the decree will be granted. In such a case, the opposite party under the idea of Restitution of conjugal rights, a party may petition the court for the restitution of conjugal rights.
(2) This means that if the spouse which in case your wife is refusing to reside with you, then you as the husband have the free option of petitioning the family court for a decree for cohabitation, and if the court’s decision is not followed, then upon application the court may take strict action against the spouse.
(3) . Additionally when a decree is passed under Section 9, the only sanction for enforcement of the decree under Order 21, Rule 32, CPC is the attachment of property against disobedience of the decree where the disobedience follows as a result of willful conduct i.e. where conditions are there for a wife or a husband to obey the decree but the same is disobeyed by one of them in spite of such conditions. In the case of Saroj Rani v Sudarshan Kumar Chadha (1984) - The Supreme Court Upheld Section 9 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 stating that this provision served a social purpose as an aid to prevent the breakup of marriages. Therefore, this will also safeguard the sanctity of your marriage and will not be detrimental to your relationship with your wife.
Finally, for the purpose of visiting your child, you need to consult a family law professional and resort to out of the court settlement as to deciding the custody of the child or decide a timings/days on which you shall be able to see your child via the process of ADR which will include Mediation between you and your in-laws.
Hope it helps.