A one-year time shouldn't be extended for filing Counter or Written Statement.
Even then matters do not move as speedily as you hope.
If the daughter is old enough, your husband can take her into his custody and he needn't pay any maintenance. If he's reluctant to have the daughter in his custody, he'll have to pay maintenance.
No one can force you to live with your husband. You're at liberty to live separately preferably getting judicial separation granted. You'll get divorce in course of events.