Suggestion to save my married life
manish bhutra
(Querist) 03 March 2015
This query is : Resolved
Dear Sir/Madam,
very warm regards, i am manish aged 32 years. and was running a lovely life. i got intercast love marriage 6 years back. and was threatened initialy by my in laws. but my wife favoured me in court and police station. both of us has seen lot of dreams and both of us done hard work to accomplish them. but 3 months back my mother in law which dislike me has started interfering in our life which is resulted that my wife left my home on 3rd of february. i went to her home many a times in kota but her mother did not allow me to meet her. and from the sources i got news that her mother is planning to file divorce case. so plz guide me what to do? i want to my maried life again in smoother mode as it was earlier. should i go in family court by section 9.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 03 March 2015
It is good to know that normal love and affection is still there between you and you have to cash in on this factor only.
Never loose opportunity to make regular communications with your wife and try to win her back in life. Take effort like a suitor before marriage.
P. Venu
(Expert) 04 March 2015
There are many a legal remedies available. However, what is more important is - is there any valid reason why your wife is displeased?
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 04 March 2015
It would not be possible for long to run your life without her open support. Presently you should wait and watch. Try to talk your wife through her friends and win her confidence.
Wish you would succeed.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 04 March 2015
agree with experts.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 04 March 2015
dont file RCR . if you do so she may file counter cases against you . if wife files divorce case it would be referred for counselling . then try to reconcile
manish bhutra
(Querist) 05 March 2015
thanks to all experts for their valuable suggestion. all the you experts to favour for good conversation. even i also want to do the same. but her mother disconnect all our conversation. her mother is very adament and she did not like our marriage. her father ios favouring me but her mother is very adamant and she even dont bother about our future and life prospectus. and more over i want to add one more fact that when she went to her home we have small argument because i was in job related stress. there was nothing serious between us but her mother make the thinks many times bigger then really it was.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 05 March 2015
It is quite surprising that UR wife left U after 6 years of marriage,despite facing problems from her parents.Hoe R U sure that her father is favouring U?If it is true U can solve the problem,with his help.Act in a wise manner and solve UR problem.I do not advice U to go for legal remedy
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 06 March 2015
carry on your effort as advised above. Breaking off marriage on this issue is not a prudent act.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 07 March 2015
Patience is the best medicine now. Be patient, watch the developments silently, she will realise and return to your fold once again if there was no serious difference of opinions between you both. Your silence will bring good response shortly either way.
manish bhutra
(Querist) 08 April 2015
Dear Experts,
my issue is still not resolve. my wife still lives in kota with her parents and i tried to met her regularly. but her mother did not allow to met me with her. and few day before her father called me at their home for discussion but they did not allow me to say anything. even their family memebers were arguing that you have married without their permission so we will not sent her back. and even my wife was also shouted on me and she started counting the small small things of past 6 years. she had exam in Jaipur of her MA final. and i went to met her but her mother and one more person came there to examination center. and i could not talk to her. she had just seen me both the times. but she had not expressed anything. so now i could not understand what to do and i am now very depressed and even i left my job also. it is already 2 months and 5 days that she is far from me. but i did not want to loose my wife. so plz help me what to do now?
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 08 April 2015
Wrong thing leaving the job.After month U have come again with the latest status of UR problem.In UR previous reply U said her father was favourable towards U, why didn't he make efforts for reconciliation from his side.Don't get dejected and depressed, join UR job and wait some more time.Don't try too file any case on them for the time being, that may complicate further and hamper amicable settlement.
manish bhutra
(Querist) 08 April 2015
Sainath sir, you are right, now I am also realizing that I had taken a wrong step by quit the job. But my mother in law was very against of our marriage and my father in law who was supporting me also surrendered to my MIL. So I was loosing hopes. And getting sucidal tendancy.i also came to my parental house for few days. But now i loosed financially, emotionally as well as physically. I was having very small arguments with my wife and my MIL makes the things vulnarable. And through the genuine sources i came to know That she is convencing my wife for further steps like divorce. I could not understand about my future life.i love my wife a lot and dont want to loose her
manish bhutra
(Querist) 13 April 2015
Dear Expert Sir/Madam,
a very strange think happened with me. which i was not expecting. two police man came to my home yesterday for searching me. and they were asking my phone number from my mother. and they informed at my home that my wife made me accused for rape case and she gave statement that our love marriage was void because she was intoxicate by me. and i have took her in my custody for last six years. sir now what to do i have the marriage certificate of Arya Samaj and Municipal corporation of City and also have wedding photos along with essential affidavit signed by her that "she is doing marriage in no pressure".
are these proof are enough for a legal marriage and she had taken all my family members name for helping me in rape.
