What if parents donot take responsibility

I am sorry for your state of affairs. But let me know what you expect legally from your parents. Your father has to take care of his daughter till she gets married. For that you can file a suit and claim maintenance. But as you said, you have got a job now. you are self sufficient.

1. This is a case scenario on the lines of ND Tiwari case. The lady here basically wants "a given family name + love / affection of her genetic father" for which she has to call HIm to court and ask him to publically declare her genetic bond with HIM instead of leaving both ladies vegabound for whatever past reasons.

2. This is a classic case of self awakening not accepting vegabound status when genetic parent is alive and challenging HIS deeds due to no fault of yours.

Sorry if these words are harsh, I think being now self sufficiaent you probably wants your mother and yourself to be recognised by your missing father as legitimate responsible relationships between you all, if this is not right then ignore this reply.
Rgds.

Well, my father expired 13 years ago and we were not in touch with him. Almost since last 10 years I can say that my mom has totally withdrawn herself from my concerns. Practically I do not have any one whom I can count on. I just hope some to get married to a sensible and responsible family unlike my own. Mother is not in a position to find a groom for me and I find my self dangling all my life.

Want to get married first decide your priorities and basic requirements  and be you sure once married you will not resort to harrassment of woman cries against your would be groom, than you will get many.

Register on any matrimonial site which now a days are free.

Unfortunate to hear of loss of natural father coupled with early separation when you were 4 yrs old and seems u r now in your early 20's. Since mother is shown to be remorse, may be still in cocoon stage due to her personal setbacks left with 2 female children to look after in support by alms of relatives and your older sister is settled you are feeling lef tout on love and affection coupled with belonging grounds after experiencing all these (infact you have unknowingly matured beyond your laughing / playing age) and you are an example of a self made personality by completing Eng. and getting employed as Sr. App. Specialist etc. In a way you have lead a tough life and come out of it remarkably well given to understand your mini briefs. Thank God for all the good times you have instead of relapsing.

Suggested to stay in good moral / ethical company and try to make visits to a good psychiatrist for boosting self morale and self esteem (don't feel shy of seeking psychiatrist helps, few sessions there will heel your past traumas and makes you as a person look and feel confident) or take few courses of Art of Living these are wonderful opportunities you should take on.

Concerning finding a suitable boy I think you should seek support of your married sister and common long standing family / friends are some of the the possible way outs.

However, since you are also attached to your mother it is suggested to look after her at this old age. Seeking legal help understanding and may be thinking to file case against your mother / relatives is not the ethical approach and your relatives who helped you all at one particular poi8nt of time now should not be involved in legal hassles for no fault of their owns. It is not the right approach you are being guided upon (thought wise).

Also suggested to move out of this legal forum ASAP as this forum is not right forum at this young age to seek legal help instead it will make you change track mentally (thinking wise) and even when a good compatible opportunity (prospective loving caring boy) comes along the way you will feel suspicious of even his good intentions. It is all trial and error and lady luck you have come with in this tiny planet and what is meant to happen it will happen no matter how much we try to change our destiny by chance or destiny by choice :-)

Well having a family setback (reactive depression possibilities) at an early age coupled with love and longing pangs and topping it with a self made secure (financial) life you should be looking to greener patches of your wonderful life. May be seeking overseas opportunity side by side looking after your mother may be one of the options worth pondering on.

BTW when people say "I don’t have anyone to hang on to" then they are the most loved ones actually - think inward you will find truth there. ;-)

I am sure as a fellow human being; you will find a way with a positive mental frame. Wish you all the very best..  

Oops wait........

Reading your classic recent past messages here in the LCI forum such as;