Dear helping Hand,
Possibility of adjusting life with wife is rarest of rare phenomena which can happen, as today it is 13 yr off marriage and we are separated almost from 13 yr.
5-6 yr back, when the litigations were in starting stage, i have handed over an application to court in DV case that i want to live with my wife. But my wife had already done so much crime against me, while filing litigation that she even rejected the offer being "gharjamai". So adjustment is rare to rare phenomena.
" Once man marries, he has to maitain wife and kids, whether they stay with you or without you" :
Everything written as law is always not correct. 75 yr back "Gulami" was a law and practiced which was also not correct. 100 yr back " SATIPRATHA" was rule in society and practiced which was also not correct. Even today property rights of women is not well defined. A girl who lives her life with father and mother do not get 1% part of property but just by taking 7 fere , she becomes a liability for someone ( and in laws ) for life time. However there might not be any contribution by her to the in law's family.
The dowry issues and property rights of women are interlinked and society it self is not ready to resolve it. These false litigation are only because disguised property rights of woman. The marriage failure rates are increasing because cultural change but it leaves the property rights of woman in dark. A girl supposed to get property where she looses her virginity but not from the family where she might have stayed for entire life.
A wife who has been responsible for taking the goverment job of husband , how she could be entitled for livilihood when she herself taken away the livilhood. but if this truth is diclosed in court by my lawyer, how and from where this entire gamble of dowry cases and DV would sustain. it would be economic failure to model, built by society.
During these entire litigation process , the boy family is only source of money to drive this gamble and get harrassed for nothing. The voices in society have got changed but not to the extent that it may change the view of judciary and specialy lower judiciary.