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Real truth! what to do if wife is not coming back?..must rea

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Found the Happiness (Enjoying)     21 September 2011

WHRE ARE YOU MR. ROHIT SHUKLA????? MY FRND I AM WAITING FOR YOUR REPLY.....PLEASE

JAYESH (Sr. Executive HR.)     21 September 2011

Thanks for your wonderful manly reply. I really appreciate it. Yes I’m little emotional person but as per suggestion of my all friends & members of LCI I have to keep aside my emotions and have to move ahead with my new life. In reality I want my wife back just because of my lovely daughter (now 5 yrs.) Did my daughter have done any crime by taking birth in my house? Did she have to be given life with her father? When I & my wife had spent our childhood with our dear parents then why not my daughter? Why almighty god had done this kind of justification with my daughter. Did I’m doing any unjust to my lovely daughter? Did I’m a cruel person? Due to all this kind of thoughts running in my mind sometime I get emotional and just for my daughter I always tried to get back my wife but my wife being a mother of my daughter had never think about all this. My wife always think how to earn more money? My wife & her mother always judge all the relations through gain & loss of money. They can’t understand emotion, feelings & sentiment. In past they always force me to live separately from my family but I myself is a family boy. Due to all this clashes started and at last 10 yrs old love relationship come to end and in that I had suffered a lot. But after all this turmoil I feel like everything is finished and sitting at the corner of this debris with hope that something nice will come out but reality is different and that I have to accept just to make my & my family life better & best. Thanks everybody for such a wonderful reply to me. Support from you all make me more & more strong and lead me to live a wonderful wife ahead.

 

Thank you all the members for helping me…

I salute all the members & LCI…

Rahul T (Engineer)     21 September 2011

Sometime for the betterment of some one you love & care you have be cruel. You are thinking about your Daughter??? That is good. But when she will see you & your wife fighting everyday, then what she will learn from that. As per me this situation is worst then the present situation. Let her think yourself as a cruel father… but at list she can grow with the peace of mind. She will not see the fight every day….

 

But no one can hide the truth. One very fine day your daughter will grow up & will come to know the truth…. I am sure at that day; you will never be called a cruel father…

 

 

Education  Ne Bachpan Ko “JALA-DALA….”

 JAWAN Huya  to “BIWI ne ZINDA LASH Bana Diya…”

 Hume bhi ZEE ne ke chahat hai….

 AAb to hume ZeeNe Do… AAb to Hume ZeeNe Doo…

 Hum Bhi akhir aak Insan-he Hai….Hamara Guna Keya hai...

JAYESH (Sr. Executive HR.)     21 September 2011

U r right Rahul T. slowely... slowely... with the help of my friends, family members, Guruji, consolers and all friendly members of LCI, I understand the situation and able to judge it. I will be very happy father when my daughter lives a happy and peace of mind life. By this development of daughter will be too good. Just I will do one thing and that I will always keep on praying for my daughter and for her good life. Universe and almighty great god will bring one fine day in my life when my daughter will know the reality and forgive me and that day will a great day of my life… thank you all… :)


(Guest)

Dear Jayesh,

I suggest you to take custody of your daughter at any how by any mean, If you really want her better future.

Is it right to think that your wife really care for her in future.

or

What about in that case, if she go for second marriage. May be her second husband don't accept your child.

Then what about your beloved daughter future as per your thought's. (You know better intentions of your wife not anyone of us in LCI or somewhere else)

Believe me your beloved daughter future will completely goes into darkness.

May be your wife at this stage not go for second marriage or you too, Due to any reason.

But Life Partner is a basic necessity of our's, In our middle age.

Apart from S_ _ , Partner is our basic indeed.

If you take resposibility of your daughter, Then all is depend upon your decision in future too. Your beloved daughter also provide you a moral support in future & also she becomes your best friend in future, Believe me.

Rest depend upon you, You are a better JUDGE on your case.

So stand & fight with defaulters on your case at anyhow, But take custody of your daughter at any cost.

May be you need to bear financial loss now due to your this action, But that loss will be recovered. When your baby is with you. 

 

Regards,

Abhinatre Gupt.

Found the Happiness (Enjoying)     21 September 2011

Yes, Rahul & Jayesh,

 

Same situation here of stucking heart in daughter’s love…….. but what to do???........ there are lots of kids in this world whose father got dies in their childhood their mothers take care of them….. out childs are one of those only………. but tragedy is that they have father but cant get the love of him………

 

You know guys!! I had planned to Grab my daughter with muscle power (illegally) & leave the country or state forever…….. but then after thinking a lot I came to on conclusion that it will be cruelty on my daughter….. bcoz for a child mother is more important than father……  anyways we just have to pray for our daughter’s happiness…………

 

MY DEAR BABY….. GOD SHOULD GIVE ALL MY HAPPINESS TO YOU…. MUAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!


(Guest)

But what's the case, If your wife intention is of money making only as stated by Jayesh.

If you are & really want care of your beloved one, Then you be able to do at anyhow ?

I here not suggest that you forgive your wife, She must be punished.

Any children need both parents, But only that one is much capable who able to cater her/his by love & affection as well in financial front too.

Rest depend upon individual thinking.

 

Regards,

Abhinatre Gupt.

Rahul T (Engineer)     21 September 2011

Friends,

           When there is no way left for me at that point I depend upon god. I feel that this point @ A sad Victim & @ JAYESH  must Depend upon god. Same thing I am repeating [there are lots of kids in this world whose father dies in their childhood] Let god takes care of them.

I suggest both the Father to try for the child custody. If they get them then fine….. or Allah! Malik. We can not take any decision above almighty….

Wahi hoga to Allah ko manjur Hoga….Par Koshis Jurur Karna cha-he-aee....

 

They should not regreat later DATE....

JAYESH (Sr. Executive HR.)     22 September 2011

To All my dear learned members,

 (just for reference) My marriage is a love marriage we had a affair for more then 5 years then we got engaged. Engagement was long for 1 year & then we got married. My marriage life is for 3 years when she left me. Before this tragedy happens in my life all is well with little difference like other couples.

 

In my case my wife is not fighting with me for money and she is very much capable of taking care of my daughter that I had seen as she is doing job as a professor in engineering college. I and my wife had a problem just based on EGO. My wife is very egoistic with full of ultra modern thoughts that can’t be acceptable to the society. I had just tried to stop from her ultra modern thoughts and all the mess happens in my life. See my wife is very good lady I still love her. But just because of her egoistic nature and her ultra modern thoughts all this happens. Above all of this my mother-in-law (i.e. her mother) is very dangerous women. In past many of my wife’s friends told me that girl (my wife) is very good girl but her mother (my mother-in-law) is very dangerous at that time I use to say that I have to marry that girl (my wife) and not to her mother (my mother-in-law) but after marriage things are different. Let me be more clear after marriage I had never seen that my wife had used single penny of her salary (that I never want but for reality I’m saying) because my mother-in-law had put her name in bank as joint operator and my mother-in-law use all the money. I had no problem regarding that. But after marriage my mother-in-law started controlling my wife and guiding my wife in wrong direction. My mother-in-law started interfering in my life & in my house matters. I got surprised when my mother-in-law visited my house on very next morning of my marriage. When we asked what happens then my mother-in-law started crying and said “I miss my daughter a lot so do I come to see her”. My family members & I got surprised but we say its all ok. There after my mother-in-law started visiting my house 2 to 3 times in a week, also my mother-in-law use to sit in my bed room with my wife for long hours. I don’t know what they talk there. After the birth of my daughter my wife insist me that my daughter should be kept with my mother-in-law just because my wife feel that her mother will take better care of my daughter then my mother & family members. After little discussion I & my family members agreed with that. Daily in morning when I go to office I use to droop my daughter at my in-law place and in night my wife pick up my daughter to my house. Also many time its happens like in week end my mother-in-law & my wife insist that my daughter should be kept with her alone and I have to surrendered to their wish just because of situation & circumstances (one more thing I would like to tell that my in-laws like small kids a lot so do I always agreed. Also I always respect my in-laws as my parents). In past I had seen all this trend with my wife’s sister and her son. To make every body happy at my in-laws end I always agreed with them and tried to make my family members to agree with them. But now I understand that I was totally wrong and I was emotionally trapped by mother-in-law. Also many time my mother-in-law had taken a decision with their lawyer that what next to do with my wife concern. As when they had registered 498 A against me & my family members we had visited police station but my wife had not visited police station instead my mother-in-law had come their and bribe lady inspector. Due to this lady inspector force me to sign notary divorce paper in her presence otherwise she will put me behind the bars. Only one person in my wife’s family who is with me that her brother’s wife as she had also suffered the same things in fact she is suffering. May god bless her. Also my wife’s sister husband had and is suffering many things but their life is going good as that fellow is belong to a very rich family. Let’s forget all this things as there are many episodes where all this things happens and I have to surrender myself against their evil wish (apparently good wish) hahahahehehe…I’m very much sure that my wife will take very good care of my daughter as I got & getting news about my daughter progress through my wife hahahahahehehe…. Regarding second marriage I think my wife will not do that as she never like to be under control she wants to live a tension free life. But if she do second marriage then she will check out all things first and if the new men don’t care my daughter then she (my wife) will not let it go that I know.

 

At last I want to tell that we all are the child of almighty great god so that god will take very good care of us and make our life very good.

 

||OM SAI RAM||

 

Thanks to all member for replying me…

sandy velan (social coordinator)     22 September 2011

great man. when somebody the so called ur better half is not willing then why ponder over it. it is a dawn of new freedom.

Aishwarya (Teacher)     22 September 2011

 nadiya chale chale re dhaara
 Oh nadiya chale chale re dhaara
 Chanda chale chale re taara

Tujhko chalna hoga, tujhko chalna hoga
Manna: Jeewan kahi bhi thhaherta nahi hai
Aandhi se toofaan se dartaa nahi hai
Tu na chalega to chal dengi raahe

life yehi hai nothing stops anywhere ..
 

khammghani to all

 

life ko harpal jeena sikhna hoga kaise bhi bhot ro liye bhot suffer karliye hainaa..

toh abhi jab present reality mein already itna sab struggle hai then why make it more by creating more problems ..hamari kuch kafiyat hai hi aisi ki naa hote hue hum bhot sochte hai aur dukh mein rehte hai kuch aadat bhi ho jaati hai dukh mein sukh lagne lagta hai ..par is dukh ko hatana hoga nahi toh yeh marte dum tak ashes me jayega ya grave mein dafan hoga saath..

ek sach toh hai ki jo bhi log is sab paristhiti mein hai apne cases ko leke aur zindagi kitni bojhil si hai usko dekhte hue toh har lamha jo chura sake un dukh bhare plao ke baad unhi mein jiye aur jeena sikhe..

aage kya hoga agle minute kya hone ko hai kuch pata nahi ek jhatke me khatam hai ya acchi hai ..bhagwaan bhi naaraz hai kehte honge ..Haye Allah ! ab kya kare..?

bhot dukh hai bhot dukh aur mera dukh sabse bada hai yeh bhi sochna nirarthak hai kyunki bachpan se leke ab tak bhi kaafi kuch mila hai humhe jo nazarandaz kiya hai usko bhi sochne mein koi burai nahi kyunki kalpana kare ya haqiqat bhi hai ki

ek chota baccha rota hai bilakhta hai bhukh se dard se pyar se..woh kahan jaaye kisko bataye ki usko kya nahi mila aur kya chahta hai koi puchne wala bhi nahi hai usse yeh sab..par hum toh saksham hai sabkuch karne mein material non material jo haasil karna chhate hai kar sakte hai aur ek naa ek din jo dampatya sukh mayi jeevan ki kaamna rakht hia woh bhi milegi aisa hai ..

ek nar ya naari ke chalte hum sabse ruthke baith jayenge toh shayad kabhi khush nahi reh payenge kya pata ki koi bhot accha aapko il jaaye isliye hamesha sabse khushi lene ke badle dena sikhe toh aur accha hoga jisse agar we want to be happy then we are not dependent on other people for happiness ..

isse aaage dekhe toh jab jo nipatna hai tabhi niptega aur jitna dukh bhugatana likha hai toh jehlna padega..baaki life khud k haaton spoil nahi kare toh behtar hai..bhot kuch accha mila hai ..

akele aaye hai akele jayenge...yeh yaad rakhna chaiye..koi pati patni beta baap maa bhai behen ko aajtak ksii ke piche marte nahi dekha maine.,..

socialise karne se dukh dard me help karne mein its better jab sab ek hi kashti ke sawar hai..

life mehez minute second ghante ko kaatna nahi hota usko jeena hota hai aur hum jitna bhoj maanke jiynge dukh samjh k jiyenge woh utna hi lagega..

 yehi sikha experince kiya par jo hai sahi hai aur jo hai yehi hai..

Regards
 

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Found the Happiness (Enjoying)     15 January 2013

 

 

 

 

 

Finally I win!!!!!

 

 

Please read!!!! Heartful Request!!!!

 

Dear LCI members,

 

 

 

Before reading this article I would like to request you to please go thru my all earlier posts, otherwise you will not be able to understand the story, but I guarantee you this story is mindblowing.

 

 

 

Very shortly I am summarising this story as follows:

 

 

 

1)     I got married in Apr2010, everything was okey & fantastic.

 

2)     Then in Oct2010 she went to her paternal home as she was pregnant & for delivery and all.

 

3)     On 24th Dec2010 I got blessed by daughter, and since Jan2011 disaster begins

 

4)     She put a condition that be separate from parent or be ready for DV

 

5)     Then lots of harassment, threatening, bla, bla, blaaa from her parents and brothers happened.

 

6)     And in Feb2011 they filed a DV against me in her native

 

7)     For every court date I was traveling from my home to her native i.e. 500 KM.

 

8)     But then too I never lost my hopes of positivity, if you doubt then please read my earlier post (the posts which I uploaded in last 2 years)

 

9)     I were knowing only 1 thing i.e. this court is just the illusionary false weapon for the people who feel that they are taking the revenge thru it but ultimately & unknowing these people are nothing but just a bread & butter for the advocates. Which advocates are likely to be appears at first sight that they are giving the emotional support against their frustration but if quantum physics reality is concerned then everything is MAYAJAL. (MAYAJAL means the a real world which appears at first sight in different way but ends in a shocking style.)

 

10)According to me this court gaming is just a MAYAJAL, Simply with the help of spiritual knowledge you can easily develop your own laws and can play tactfully with a simple logic & common sense then surely you can win. I know it is very hard to digest but some senior advocates & old victims will definitely agree with me.

 

11)There is one and only director of your story, who directs your climax i.e. you, yes only you……Neither your partner, nor court judge.

 

12)Simple suggestion I would like to give that please stay away from all the emotions i.e. fear, anger & resentment be calm and think what exactly you want. If you believe in magic definitely it will happen with you, if you don’t then that magic is not for you.

 

13)I believed on above things and things started changing. During my lonely & tragic period of 2 years by having a fear of maintenance I started my own business simultaneously with job.

 

14)That business has got a great success. Also whenever the interactions happened with my wife I behaved in a very matured, sincere, natural & polite manner bcoz of I was knowing/believing the climax of my story.

 

15)During in court also there was a first class superb confident SMILE was there on my face which was irritating my in-laws.

 

16)I was just entertaining court just to defend myself not to attack.

 

17)Finally at one point where I was stable but my wife started feeling guilty and with having all the tears in her eyes literally she ran towards me like a1970s ki Bollywood heroin. She just touched my feet & said “ SO SORRY, AAG LAGAO IS COURT-KACHERI KO AUR MAIN TUMHARE BINA NAHI JEE SAKTI – MUZE MAAF KAR DO AUR GHAR LE CHALO, MAIN AUR MERI BETI AAP KE BINA ADHURE HAI”

 

18)This miracle happened on 10-01-2013. I got my old love in fresh packaging ….. Now happily we 3 are living together in a joint family. This is our new beginning.

 

 

 

I was been able to do this because I believe in magic, Einstein says, “There are only 2 ways to believe in your life i.e. either everything is miracle or nothing is miracle.” Guys please, please, please don’t think that it was so simple, you cant even imagine how much pain she had given to me, everyone was saying once the sun can rise in west but she cant change. Here if in my case my imagination/belief can change her mind then it can happen in your case too.

 

 

 

Now I have huge business, nice job, nice house, nice daughter, nice family & offcourse nice wife. Before it was not like that but I stole it from this universe. The purpose is not to prove that how great I am, but I mean to show one hidden dimension towards this domestic issues is “Changing the relations will not lead you to the destination of happiness but changing of attitude is”

 

 

 

Again I would like to explain that changing the wife will not lead you to the happiness but compromising attitude can do it…… Bludy hell with the ego, I am damn sure that definitely you will have to make compromise either with your first wife or second or third or bla, bla, bla……. But only & only & only compromise can lead you to the happiness, not ego… now if compromise has to happen then why not with first one? Hellow, Here I am talking about to compromise, not to surrender, please don’t be confuse and don’t let your self-respect down.

 

 

 

You might be thinking that in this domestic legal forum why this person is talking all about the emotions & attitude, why I am not talking about legal technicalities like others. But my dear frnds you will get all the answers of all those domestic issues questions only at behavioural science, quantum physics, psychology, philosophy, spiritual science, etc. not in law books.

 

 

 

Now let me wrap up this story bcoz just now my wife has made “HALWAA” for me and she is asking me for a breakfast & my daughter is playing with me and she is disturbing me from this and so its became very difficult to type on this forum for now.

 

 

 

Thanks you guys,

 

I wish the same story with you all too.

 

Regards,

 

(Sad Victim –Prior Extn)

 

(Happy Man – Nowadays Extn-+91 9920374232-Feel free to call me if you need any help)

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498 A fighter (Advocate)     18 January 2013

you read my story and then guide me


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