Precautions taken - before marrige!


Dear Forum,


I am going to get married next month and due to some lack of communication from my would be side, some negative feelings have raised in our family.

Issues that are still open with them are like:

1. We are clarifying them every purchase we made and call them about progress made but they never talk about what their plans for this marrige. After reminding for asking multiple times they never communicate us the progress at there end. (Though I am in touch with girl and daily we talk).

2. I have few differences with my fiancee on eating habits, clothes style, life style, tastes and communication but still she assured me that she'll make adjustments. But she also never call my family members as not allowed from her parents.


I would like to know the precautionary measures I may take now for avoiding any future trouble like case on Dowry etc.

 
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NA

Why you need update of their purchase?Dont bother these things.Keep vdo of each and every moment of the marriage specially every conversation with your in laws in the marriage.

You both are from different family, diff. background..so differences in choice/habit may be there...you both have to adjust with each other and respective families to make this marriage work.Dont expect only the girl will have to adjust..and you will have the old life.

Dont worry.All the best.

 
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Advocate

All we really need to know about psychology is this. The way we feel affects the way we think. What we think directs our behaviour. How we behave and the way others behave towards us affects the way we feel. This feeling – thinking – behaviour cycle was described by Galen almost 2000 years ago. It seems the smartest animal on Earth can sometimes be awfully slow to learn. ............Mark

 

You are going for marriage.  It is a happy occasion.  Go for it with a healthy and trustful mindset.  If you feel doubtful about them, they will respond similarly towards you.  That is what the above quote explains.


 

 
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NA

If you have any apprehensions, then don't proceed with marriage. Try to postpone it until you are convinced.

It's too risky thing to marry as a Hindu today. So get all things clarified first.

But personally I wudn't bother much about marriage preparations but the girl's taste and attitude might be a matter of concern.

 
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Professional

Why does your family want "reports" of wedding preparations from her side? What is the purpose? As long as your families have mutually decided regarding all ceremonies, dates etc., what else do you need to know? Not everyone likes to share all details, no need to make an issue out of nothing. 

 

Why is it a problem if she is not calling your family members? You are not even married, yet!

 

Marriage is supposed to be about both people adjusting, hope that you are also planning to make some adjustments. It does not seem that way from this thread.


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software engineer

Dont get married to her and dont spoil ur life and her life .If  you are so doubtful and cant adjust stop thinking of marriage...Not always girl should listen to you , at some time you also need to compromise and adjust and consider her opinion .........Now a days its not possible , with this kind of mind set .....if you proceed for marriage its going to be hell ...Neither of families should stop complaining..you dont know about her family..you know about  your family ...If you really want her..win her  and get her .. Be careful if her parents are more demanding and dominating (its also too bad thing ....both sides parents need to soft , happy  and make the marriage as most happiest occasion in your life ......

 
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Consultant

dont marry

 
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dont marry this girl... Since you have negative feeling about them.. After all its your LIFE. Take a wise decision.
 
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Consulltant

If you are already having negative feeling, my request to you is not to get married. I also had some hints of girl and her family being dominating and other things but I ignored them. After marriage I face the consequences. I also had some expectations from my fiance regarding clothes, weight etc which she said she will improve but trust me, after marriage girls forget all these promises.

Marry only when you are fully convinced.

 
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Analyst

Dear i have passed through all these things and now fighting for a false dowry case

Don't marry her... otherwise life might become difficult for you

 
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