Originally posted by : prakashmehra
I am a divorcee and have just mother at home. Have younger sister too but she is married. We are looking for proposals for my second marriage and since I had a bad experience earlier, would like you expert advice on the below facts:
1. I am staying on rent and it is the pre-condition from most of the bride's family to have our own home before going for marriage. So thought of purchasing a builder floor.
2. I have taken a personal loan and gifted it to my sister. Rest she has taken an home loan to purchase a property. The property is not in my name however will be used by me after my marriage. The rental payments will be used by my sister to disburse her loan.
Though I am positive in restarting my life however still have fear due to biased laws. In the above light, please advise:
Appreciate your expert guidance.
hello Prakash Mehra,
There have been so very good movies which you have directed, Amitabh Bachchan swears by your name even today :-))
Look, as you have so many fears about above getting married again, you better not get married. 99% success of marriage depends on how your approach towards marriage is, as you think that you will have problems in second marriage too, you will surely have more problems in second marriage than what you had in first marriage.
Getting married is like searching black cat in dark room, you may get it or you may not get it, if you get it it may scratch you, bite you, all depends on your fate. With preconcieved notions like this, its better that you stay single, go for adoption, you will give life to a kid, think of being of service to mankind, than to serve just one woman.
1. In case if the things don't go well, will my future wife demand any residential rights in a property that is in my sister's name.
Then ghoomo court, agle 7-8 years. And if your fate is doomed, your wife will file criminal cases on you, as if one was not enough you will roam to court coz of second marriage, and will never sleep peacefully and also let any of your family members be peaceful especially age old parents. Warrant issue, NBW, going absconding all this will happen. Again pay fees to lawyer. Go stand in court hall doors as if you are watchman. But wherever you are sister house or mother house of father house or friend house, wherever you are wife can get residential rights u/s 19, 23 of PWDVA 2005, and you cannot do anything about it. It will be legal entry with police protection.
2. Since I have taken a personal loan before my marriage, will my EMIs be considered before awarding any maintenance order?
income minus expenses = take home income on which 1/3rd will be calculated as maintenance.
Only way to avoid problems with wife is: Adjust with her. Come what may, dont let things go haywire. At all times tell OKAY, OKAY and act according to wishes of wife and her parents. Thats the best way out for everybody, your wife wont complain, your inlaws wont complain, and eventually your parents will also be happy, you will have married life. Stop expecting a wife who will be like your mom, today's girls will revolt, will question, will make their own rules, look at you, you wear pant, look around, girls also wear pant, so its time for man to wear frock, that time has come. So you better think deeply before taking decision of getting married again. Only if you can handle wife, marry, or else dont marry.