I m in great distress and need your consul.
I had an arranged marriage 13 years back and have a 11 years daughter.
So you mean to say someone arranged your marriage, and you just were there as a ritual.
Relationship wit my husband was not on great terms but dragged the marriage somehow.
See this is what happens when someone else arranges the marriage and you are just there as a part of a ritual.
I am a commerce graduate and a home maker.
Got married right after my graduation and have done minor jobs like receptionists and all before marriage and few months during married life. Husband earns very well so going back to make a successful career was never an agenda. In recent years our squabbles increased a lot which resulted in I leaving my house with my daughter and shifting to other house which is co-owned with my husband. Husband is staying in our other house.
My and my daughters upkeep is now not looked by him and he gives very meager amount which is not atall suitable to the lifestyle I used to hve when I was with him.
Yes, moving out was your decision. IF you were really capable of looking after yourself, then you could have moved out. Moving out on your own and then asking for alms, looks inappropriate to me. Instead of showing ego, you should have altered your ego and led a peaceful life with your husband.
When I asked for more money he said no and to manage in what he provides or go out to earn. When I insisted he said to go and take legal help
Exactly. Why should you ask for money??? when you are a commerce graduate, wen you can find a job for yourself. It is you who moved out. And look at your guts, having a female kid and you move out when you clearly knew you did not have any financial backup. Your husband is right, you go find some job for yourself.
I then contacted a lawyer who suggested to file a DV case for getting maintenane money from my husband which I did. The case is going on since last one year. Now husband has filed divorce case on me. I dont want divorce from him.
Frankly dear, lay your hands on the oldest slipper in your shoerack, and go to that lawyer and hit him with that slipper till it gets fully torn, for misleading you and breaking your family in the pretext of getting some money as maintenance from your husband through court. Secondly, dont throw that slipper, you can still make use of that, hit yourself on your head for listening to that lawyer and for filing that Domestic violence case against your husband.
Do not worry, it may sound very rude now, but down the line, am sure you will feel the same, and would unapologetically do the same in the near future.
We hve been staying apart since last 1.5 years and even my daughter is not in touch with him. I dont know his whereabouts.
If you file false cases, how will he be ever seen again? he will run away as he has done now.
He comes to court when needed but his lawyer is present for all court dates. I hve conveyed him thru email tht I want to return to him but he adamant on divorce.
Here read the above slipper story, oldest slipper, dont go for brand new slippers. Preferably hawai bathroom slippers.
His family is also not much of help here. My divorce hearing ( my reply for his petition) is coming in next 2 months. I am completely lost here... not sure wht to do. Could someone guide me pls.
Yes dear, even I dont know what to do in your case. You have done all maskiri in the first place and now repenting.
Your husband will never accept you back in this lifetime. You better get MCD and find a new partner who can take care of you and your little one. No much options for you. But if you go the slipper way. Make a VDO of such act, post it on the net. Then tell your husband how foolish you were to listen to that lawyer who guided you wrongly in filing Domestic Violence case and that you apologize for it, then perhaps your husband might give taking you back a second thought.