Maintenance

My suggestion go ahead, you seems to be truly sufferer. Explain your spontaneous incidents and behaviours of in law. Your husband will automatically come to India and you will get your all belongings and marriage expenses etc.

Thank you for understanding. I tried to discuss, then tried for MCD and then tried for simple divorce case without any demand. Still he is not co-operateing. Now please answer my above mentioned questions and guide me so that I can fight for justice and force my husband to solve the problem. He has no right to ruin my life.

Sorry to hear your case.

Really don’t understand what your husband wants? He doesn’t want to give divorce and he doesn’t want to take you?

Samir has given his valuable advice and other lawyers may try to answer your questions too.

You are repeating the same questions one time as a Man and another time as a Woman trying all permuations and combinations.

Mentioning this forum is Male dominated and making us fools.

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Maintenance-114459.asp#.VKGeg14BdA

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Nri-husband-114518.asp#.VKGfFF4BdA

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Please-help-me-114543.asp#.VKGfLV4BdA

What is this? Are you a Woman or a Man? One time you mention your husband is in UK and other time you have mentioned you are in US as a researcher.

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Can-i-deny-defending-myself--112784.asp#.VKGgo14BdA

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Maintenance-110043.asp#.VKGh_V4BdA

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Amount-of-maintenance-and-alimony-110135.asp#.VKGhxF4BdA

 

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Should-i-file-divorce--110110.asp#.VKGin14BdA

Exactly. Thanks for the research. Yes, its true that I questioned from the male's side too. I had to. To know the exact situation well. The resin is that this forum is Male Dominated, and the answers also most of the time is that. I have not seen any thread which suggests to go for 498? (i don't want though) . But I don't believe there is no case where you really need to go for that. I had to know what the other party can do, so that I can defend myself in a better way. When my husband is trying to ruin my life, It is me who have to defend myself and keep my life safe from that fraud fellow. I wanted to stay with him, I wanted MCD... I wanted divorce without any demand, still he is saying he won't give divorce. and I have come to know that he is in live-in relation there and will get citizenship there, then marry her and will lead a happy life. what will happen to me then? I am still in utter depression and in search of the solution.

@ queriest:
indeed everyone hs right. agree with u.
bt
498-a, dv, maint. etc. and ur desire " I wanted MCD... I wanted divorce without any demand, "etc. etc.  in ur own word in this thread does not match with your OWN hearty desire "I wanted to stay with him, !!!!!

add one point to ur doubt:::

" I have come to know that he is in live-in relation there and will get citizenship there, then marry her and will lead a happy life. what will happen to me then? "

ur doubt is valid.
bt fr second marriage one has to take DIVORCE first frm existing WIFE. it is an open secret.

You are making a big joke out of yourself.  You dont even know what you want.

Be clear in your thoughts.

Indecisiveness is in plenty and that seems to be the root cause of all your problems.

Its never late to learn a lesson.  Change your thinking asap.

What is a joke? Cant you see when my husband is making my life a joke? thats why i told that this forum is male dominated. And males are always like this. They see a woman's life as a joke. yes i repeat "I wanted to stay with my husband". I requested, I prayed, but he left me in India and living his happy life in Uk with someone else. Don't you think that is a joke? Then I proposed a MCD without any demand. Do you think that is a joke?  Still he is saying that he won't give divorce. Don't you think that is a joke? Now he is planning to take citizenship there and live happily with his partner and leave me in India. 

You see this situation as a joke, but noone is giving a solution (except those I already tried) so that a woman can save her life from such a culprit.

I know very well what i want and i have made it clearly, but you males will always see a woman's problem as a JOKE. thats the reality.

Yes its a joke you are making out of yourself, he is having a blast somewhere else on the planet and you are not a part of it, thats the ultimate truth.  

You dont have patience or the will to go find your husband nor to wait for him, if you want, you can catch him, wherever he is, he is on earth itself.  You know its not worth it.  

 

In my opinion, its useless to even file 498a also on such a loser who has run away to some country.  If you file such case on him you will get caught in your own web and to get out of it it take lot of time and if you fail to prove your allegations in criminal case, you will go jail gauranteed 7 years for filing false case, [that looks to be the case as he looks to be a tough nut to crack].  And there is no use thinking about red corner etc or waiting for him as if he is Sri Ram.

You just go ahead and file RCR, give him option of taking you where he is living, or return back to India, both for which give 3 months time and mention that on failing to do so, you will be forced to file for divorce.  If he dont  reply, GO ahead and file for divorce based on desertion.  After that find a lawyer who will move your case in court on day-to-day basis and get you exparte divorce in case your husband does not turn up.

Decision making will be tough, but many things have lead to what the situation is now, so no use worrying and thinking too much.  You have limited shelf life, take swift decision, and more importantly stick to any decision you take. Wishing you good.  All the best.

@ author,
seems ur hubby is not a practical man. why he hs a affection toward ur furniture. value of  furniture will b dwn the very nxt moment u pay.

why insist on MCD.

y r u trying to convince here tht u r not need any money.
tell it in court and pray thm to ask ur hubby wht is the reason behind his unwillingness if not money !!!
final authority is court.

afraid u r not in a position to mk this pray to court. do u ????  !!!!!!