originally posted by Baby
i am from Mumbai i have done registered marriage under special marriage law with my boy friend 3 months ago but due to problems between us now i want to get out of this marriage his parents know about our marriage but my parents do not know.
my parents have shown me a boy with whom i will get marry but before that i want to end this marriage but my bf is not ready i have told him i will not talk to you and changed my cell no. and now we are not in touch from last 1 month. he has once tried to attempt suicide by cutting his vain and he keeps calling my landline no but i dont answer also he has come to my home many times but i keep my door locked so he could not meet me my parents do not know all this.
i am very tensed and what should i do now please help me
First of all I would like to appreciate your choice that you have done a love marriage through special marriage act.
But at other end I would like to state that you are a damn selfish and fattu kind of gril who marries a boy with his own choice and leave that man by her own parents choice.
Shame on you lady !
If you were not daring to hold his hand until the climax then why you have married to him. You would have gone through arranged marriage according to your parents wish,why you have ditched him?
As per your querry,you only mentioned problem with that boy...
Now i will tell , won't you think the same problem will not occur in your arranged marraige,how sure you are that.
My dear querist, In an arranged marriage problems are more accute if it fails due to incompatability or adjustement or demand or ego whatever .....then what you will do?
Again you will come on this forum and ask the same question or you would be enhanced with enough knowledge that how to do third marriage.
As per your query you only wrote that how much he loves that he cut his vain but for whom?
For you sweet baby.....!
He came no. of time to your home....for whom?
For you sweet baby.......!
and what have you done------just shattered the door infront of his face,how brutal that was!
My dear querist, in love marriages the choice is only for two things---- do or die,no third thing.
But in your love marriage, no die before 2nd,3rd marriage.... isn't it?
A sincere advice to you just respect his feelings as he loves you more than you and Iam sure that what ever your parents will choose for you will be not replaced by his love.
Just go ahead talk to him,sort out the problems and be ready to face consequences by holding each others hand.
If again he do the same mistakes and reapetedly hurts you intensionaly,then leave him and think for your best,but now as per your query and the way you have asked only demands you to accept your love marriage.