Neha (private) 23 September 2013

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hello everybody, this is very useful site in providing legal advice. i have gone through many questions and answers. and half of my questions are already answered from them.... thank you. there is one question going in my mind.. please advice and help me to get out of this?? sir, i have put DV and maintenance case on my in-laws after women cell counselling failed... now my husband is not ready to take me back and thrown me out of the house.. after every effort from my family and relatives they are stuck to this because i have said no to their unusual demands of money and decided to fight back.. i have proves of their cruelties like they have thrown me and they having my istridhan etc. as far as this my husband when found caught himself then he make an excuses that he has not thrown me out of house and i myself came to my parents home although i have proof as police himself had send me my parents home and i asked money from neighbours for ticket as i was having no money to buy ticket. as, after marriage i had given him my id password and told him about my friend circle... i don't understand the bad intentions of him , but now understand he has taken printout of my before marriage chats with friends in which i says i want to marry someone. but somehow we broke up.. now he is taking plea of that chats that i was having past affair and i want to marry him that is why i lodge false complaint.. although that is not true as after marriage i never contacted any one from my friend circle. nor they... after marriage i never contacted anyone of my friend. please help me how to tackle this situation in court.. because they have lawyer who is also saying that i was having affair so this happening??? do past affair matter, if nothing related to future means no contact in future... please please advice..... because he is even defaming me publically in society whosoever want to sort out our matter....

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(Guest)

Your query is having half part and other half part is somehow missing.Let me complete it:

1.Why you again want to go to that hell if your husband in-laws have tortured you?

2.Is this only a money game or a harassment game?

3.Why don't you go for MCD?

4.Do you think that after DV , maintenance and if he still adamant not to take you you will file 498a or other criminal cases on him and his family?

5.Do you think that after filing N number of cases on him he will listen to you and accept you?

6.Do you agree that for a marital life their should be only love,affection and trust and NO lawyers,police,judge and offcourse the third person i.e your parents and relatives?

If any of above question's answer's given by you and if you convince your husband with the same then you can hope that he will accept you.

If not....then forget him.....go for MCD with genuine settlement and look for better alliance with whom you could live better than him.

regards.

Neha (private) 24 September 2013

thank you for the suggestion. i don't need to clarify myself. GOD knows who is right and who is wrong. so leave it to GOD only... because it everybody thinks one himself is right... also what you said why i want to live with them when they used to torture, then its because its not game of toys marriage, its about life. also if one is at fault then you should taught him lesson next time one dare not do this to other.. i tried to sort out this with my heart but when they don't want to understand then let them face the dire consequences. also if i'm at fault then i should be given punishment.. i'm GOD fearing girl and believe in GOD. so want to live on GOD wishes. so thank you for your suggestions but better suggest this to my husband also..

Nadeem Qureshi (Advocate/ nadeemqureshi1@gmail.com) 24 September 2013

repeated query, read your another post

(Guest)

@Neha

I also have shown door to my wife after she tried to food poison my mother. I asked her father to come and take her back because for me to live with such a fool is living hell. Don't know whether you agree or not if it is cruelty on me or my wife. Showing door as you say is cruelty then food poisoning an elderly woman is much bigger offense and also it was the trigger for bad blood between us. We men don't have a DV law to file on wife otherwise I would not have sent her away instead like you, should have taken a legal route.

So showing the half truth doesn't really make you a good wife. No one will take such a huge step just for nothing. Always come up with complete facts. "He has thrown me out of the house" also mean you may also have done something terribly wrong!!

May or May not but your brief should always be complete to get a good legal/moral advice from legal experts here.

Finally, your past letters/chats have no relevance whatsoever and your husband has no legal ground to trouble you. Good luck.