Sir first of all thank you very much that you had given your valuable time on my post,
Now your reply is long but still I will try to convince you ,
I think there is some communication gap in between you & your wife….
For this I want to say that I call her many times but she is not listening to me she is not picking my call so communication gap must be there because of her and I tried 10000000 time after all there is limit.
When she pick up the cell she use abusive language , harsh words like I will sleep with many , you are lallu hizda etc etc . so patience and emotion vanishes here,
And there is self respect of each man which also gets hurts
Here I will say “ I can surrender my ego but not self respect after all what I m doing is good for her also”
Please don’t be sad of your act of accepting her, because as per LAW OF KARMA is concerned you have done justice with your KARMA…. So VICTORY will be always yours i.e. 100%.
(Kuttonke kharrate marne se bhala sher ki neend nahi udati)
Ok I was also philosophical at that time now also “ but by practical saying
Prathvising ne gauri ko 21 bar maaf kiya tha par guari ne ek baar me hi unhe maar dala. So karma also favors those who did something ,Ghandhi ne bhi “ karo ya maro” ka nara diya
Krishna ne bhi Shishupal ko 99 galtiyo tak nahi mara fir bhi usne 100 galti ki aur mara,
Samudra ne bhi Ram ko tab raasta diya jab Ramne dhanush baan uthaya.
Zidddi hati egoistic logo ke liye ek hi niyam hai “ bhay bin preet na hoye gosai”
Again I am repeating the same thing: If you really want to live happy, peaceful & successful life then Please stay away from F.A.R. (Fear, Anger & Resentment)
1) FEAR – This is feeling about FUTURE, what will happen in future? Will I be safe? (We have to just say at any circumstances “THIS IS JUST A CHANGE BUT I AM SAFE”…Because “LAW OF CHANGE” says I am not gonna be harmful to any one, I am there just for your continuous and all dimensional growth.
FEAR is most important factor which make you alert everytime so be fearful always even animals having fear , bache ko papa ki mar ka dar , chor ko police ka dar, bible kuran hindu grantho me dar ko jaruri mana hai. Khuda se dar , bhagwan se dar , samaj ka dar .
Fearless to ramrajya me ya satyug me raha ja sakta thaw aha bhi samaj ka dar sita ko ram ne chod diya.
Fear hai to samaj hai warna sab jagah jangal raaj ho jaayega.
2) ANGER – This feeling about the PRESENT, because present situation is not in favour….thats why anger comes, & anger is just a body reaction but not a truth..…But to make it favourable you must have to go thru universal law i.e. “LOW OF ADJUSTMENT”….. & “LAW OF COMPENSATION”…. Law of compensation says “in order to receive something you must have to give something”
ANGER- gussa ghi jaruri hai bache ko gussa ata hai , hamko tumko sabko aaata hai mnushya hai to ayega kyonki sab ek dusre se bandhe hai aur agar koi galat kare ya hamre expectation par kam na ho to gussa ayega “ jo universal law apne diye hai wo manushye k eek dusre se bandne ke pehle ke hai bandne ke baad ke nahi. Jab koi raasta na ho to adjustment aata hai. Jaise aankho me lagane kaajal nahi mila to diye ki kaalikh hi lagali ye adusjtment hai , lekin agar aankh kharab hogi to doctor ko fees deni hogi ye compensation hai par jiski jeb se paisa kharch hoga wo aur jiski aankh kharab hogi use gussa pehle ayega ye anger hai. So anger is present always.
3) RESENTMENT – This feeling is about PAST, Whatever tragedy happened in our past, Einstein says – “However may be our past our future is still spotless”…. But if we have that resentment about past or about any person then I guarantee sure you cant enjoy your present & future….. Its like carrying 50kg bag on back and climbing mount Everest.
RESENTMENT: kya ram bhul gaye the rawan unki BV ko le gaya, Kya Krishna Bhul gaye kans ne unke bhai bahan ko mara , kya draupadi bhul payee ki use nanga kiya gaya
Aap jis resentment ki baat kar rahe ho wo sadhu logo ya gyani log jo ghar pariwar se dur hai unke liye hai, ya fir choti moti baton ke liye jo baten jindgi par asar chodti hai unke liye nahi
Maine ek rupya dahej nahi liya fir bhi jail gaya , aaj bhi 498 lad raha hu 4 saal se, sab bhul kar use laya fir wo meri 1 mahine ki bacchi le gaye maine apni beti ko ek saal se nahi dekha uska bachpana kho diya kya iske liye bina dahej ki shadi kit hi maine ya life me struggle kiya tha ya ghar basane ke liye use selelct kiya aur ab kab tak intezaar karu aur manau usko jab tak jab meri bachi baccha paida karne layak ho jaye tab tak , ye resentment nhai kayarta hai.
Your lots of question marks is combination of all those feelings, I am just fine with these lines “IF I HAVE GOOD CONTROLE ON MY VEICHLE, I WILL NEVER COMPLAIN ABOUT DISGUISTING ROADS, TRAFFIC, INDECIPLINE DRIVERS, FAULTY SIGNALS, ETC, UNNECESSARY SPEED BREAKERS, SURPISING STREET PASSERS, RUNNING CHILDS/ANIMALS BETWEEN THE ROAD, ETC”
Ok you have good control but jab koi truck peeche se aakar aapko marega tab aap maroge nahi jinda bache rahoge, tab aapka good control kaha chala jayega aap sahi par dusre bhi sahi hone chahiye tab isliye pati patni ko gadi ke do pahiye kaha gaya hai dono ko hi barabar chalna chahiye. Kisis ek ke good control se kuch nahi hota.bhaisab.
Forgiveness is the biggest weapon if we use it heartfully, If you really want to see glorious enjoyment of this universe then you must forgive others & offcourse to yourself.
Kshma Daya anajani galtio ke liye hoti hai nahi ki janbhuj kar ki kayee galtiyo ke liye, agar aap seedhi gay[ cow ] ki punch par pair rakhoge ye soch kar ki wo maaf kar degi to aisa nahi hai wo sing jaurur maregi. Jabki wo sabse shant seedha prani hai.
You are saying that again she may file cases against me then my reply is if she do this 1000 times then too I am prepared for that, because attacking may her religion but forgiving is mine…. I should not be diverting from my duty…. Always concentrate on your KARMA….and ask such question to yourself ..1) Am I doing right? 2)Is it containing welfare for all?,,, if answers for those two questions is “YES”…Then surely you can move ahead…
We have to behave like a gentleman that if she wins in this case then too she should feel guilty of herself that she is losing one of the great man of this planet….
She once put me in custody and in jail mera ghar ke sara saamna wo aur police le gaye meri bacchi le gayee aur use case karne do taki wo mujhe phansi pe chada de mere marne par meri lassh par aakar guilty feel kare fir dusri shadi karke mere paiso par aish kare this is not KARMA
Bhagwan Krishna ne bhi kaha “ JAB TUM APNI CHEEZ KO HASIL KARNE KI TAQAT NAHI RAKHTE YA HASIL KARNE KA PRAYAS NAHI KAR SAKTE TO TUMHE US PAR RONE KA BHI KOI HAQ NAHI HAI”
Apne haq ko pana hi apna KARM hai , agar aap dhar m par chal rahe ho ya dharm stapna [ apna ideal ghar pariwar} basana chahte to to adharm ko bhi apnana pade to wo dharmukt karma hai ,
Agar aap wife par case kar rahe ho aur us case se kai ladkiya seek le rahi hai to wo kai pariwar ka welfare kar raha hai yaha aapka bhi welfare hoga , yaad rakho tufan hamesha asantulan hone par hi aata hai aur tufan ke jane ke baad hi nayee dunia rachee jati hai, agar jaha gandgi bad jaye to tufaan ka aana , maha bharat ka hona behtar hai. Tab sare prashno ke uttar YES hi hote hai.
Jito to aise ke khud harne wala tumpar fakra kare,
Aur haro to aise haro ke tumhari har bhi ek itihas ban jaye.
Harne wala kabhi jeetne wale par fakra nahi karta wo badla letaa hai, aur haar kabhi itihas nahi banti wo majak banti koi bhi itihass utha kar dekh lo.
JUNG HAMESHA DUSHMAN KO MAAR KAR HI JEETI JATI HAI , DUSHMAN KE HATHO SHAEED HOKAR KOI NAHI JEETA AAJ TAK.
I am not doing this for the sake of my wife, but I am doing this for my inner peace …..
The values and satifaction of inner peace are different for different person .you know yours , jab aap wife ke liye nahi kar rahe to fir fear, anger , etc sab baten kyon …
But I am sure this will not repeat again….. That’s what confidence and belief I am having on me…
Bhagwan kare aapki life bahut khushnuma ho , koi problem na aaye hamesha pariwar bana rahe.
Because as you read my earlier post which is posted in last two year you may see that I was having 100% confidence that she will come back… if my earlier belief has comes to an existence then why not this one????
Khuda kare aisa hi ho taki mera ghar bhi bas jaye,
Mai bhi aisa hi sochata tha jab wo pehli baar gayee thi , hamre bujurg kahte hai jab seedhi ungli ghee na nikle to ungle tedi karlo so mujhe ungli tedi karni pad rahi hai sir,
Agar is par aap , apni advice ya experience de sako to jarur dijiye thank you sir.
i am alays thankful to you for your valuable suggestions and advice , dont mind it is an open talk and sharing of our legal views in the form of our experiences
