I am a techie from Hyderabad, hailing from a background of teacher parents, and a good academic career. I got married in late 2010, my wife is also working in a IT MNC and earning a very decent salary.
My married life has been like a over stretched nightmare right from the very first month. She is extremely short tempered, foul mouthed and incredibly rigid. The only grievance she has is the fact that she feels I donot spend enough time with her. With that, in order to humiliate me in front of my family, she always brings up the case of 2 girls I had romantic involvement with , long before marriage.
- I have never ever cheated on my wife after marriage. She can never prove otherwise. Infact, I never had physical relationship before my marriage at all.
- Me or my family have not demanded any dowry, or any kind of cash during marriage. However, she had brought some gold jewellery for her, and for me during marriage as tradition - again , we never demanded it.
- I have never physically assaulted her, or forced her for anything. I have not demanded money from her salary to manage home.
- I do most of the cooking at home, drop her at office; spent close to 1lac in first year of marriage on 2 trips to make her happy.
- We never had any problems in our s*x life, so long as differences were managable, then it ceased to exist altogether.(for the past 2 months)
On the other hand she:
- Abuses me for any little things she finds annoying.
- She has called me a lot of things, told me "Fuck You" , "Eunuch"
- She has physically assaulted me at numerous occasions - bitting, hitting, scratching and kicking - and I have bled some times.
- She and her family members talk in extreme and pedestrian abusive language regarding me and my family behind my back.
- Acts crazy when she is angry, throws household items , pretends to cut her wrist . One time after a huge fight she sat on the bed, took a big magazine, tore the pages one by one to bits and threw them all around the bedroom and then went to sleep.
Things I have:
Recording of the foul language that she and her family members were using in a conversation , I was not present.
In this clearly audible recording, they call my father a Old Lizard (in native language), my mother a Skinny Whore, my sister an A** F*** and a lot of other derogatory things. They also talk about a ploy of gaining my trust now by hook and crook and then "step on the heads of my father and mother"
- Photograph of the scratch marks I had from her assault.
I am deeply hurt and angered. I do not want to continue this relation. There are a couple of things that are crossing my mind :
- Can I file a FIR on grounds of Verbal Abuse (IPC 504), with the recordings as evidence. Soon I will have a recording with me in the discussion, where I may expect some face to face abuse as well.
- Can I go public with this recording and show her real face to the masses ? Whats the legal implication with that ?
- Can these evidences be used to protect me from a 498A - if at all it happens anytime in the future ? Soon I will have a recording where my wife and her parents are going to admit that there is no kind of dowry demand or physical abuse from our side ?
I know , this post has been extremely long. But I hope you understand the kind of anguish me and my parents are going thru at this juncture that made me write all this. My parents are very old, I am their only son, and it breaks my heart to see them suffering like this.
Please help me.