Adult survivor of child abuse


Dear Sir/Madam,

I am adult survivor of child abuse by my cousin brother when I was 10 years old.He abused me s*xually by touching and licking my private parts.Its so disgusting and hurting for me.This pain is haunting me since many years. I am planning to take legal action for the loss and pain I have gone through these years. None of my falimy members are supporting me thinking this reputes family's prestige and social stigma.

How do I go about it? Please suggest me. 
 

 
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Hi Priya,

I understand that the trauma of the incident would still be haunting you and you aree looking to find peace with it in your mind. Let me tell you about your options and you can decide then, what you would like to go through.

Unfortunately, there is bar of limitation under section 468 of the Criminal Procedure Act, 1973 which restricts filing of criminal complaint after three years. But if you still need to take some serious legal action, you can always file an FIR, but it is highly likely that the offender will face punishment because for such crimes, the FIR needs to be lodged immediately after the incident or atleast soon after the incident.

 

 
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Hi Priya,

I understand that the trauma of the incident would still be haunting you and you aree looking to find peace with it in your mind. Let me tell you about your options and you can decide then, what you would like to go through.

Unfortunately, there is bar of limitation under section 468 of the Criminal Procedure Act, 1973 which restricts filing of criminal complaint after three years. But if you still need to take some serious legal action, you can always file an FIR, but it is highly likely that the offender will face punishment because for such crimes, the FIR needs to be lodged immediately after the incident or atleast soon after the incident.

 

 
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Okay thank you understanding my situation. Is there no other way to report such issues?

 
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Okay thank you understanding my situation. Is there no other way to report such issues?

 
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Priya, 

Its sad to hear that you went thru this tragic experience.  As far as legal action against him is concerned..it seems too late to really get some punishment for him.

Such incidence leaves a person wounded and scarred with lot of mixed emotions of anger, sadness, helplessness and desire for revenge.  These feelings are natural in a trumatized person and need to be processed to rebalance normal emotional life in the future.

My humble suggestion will be to leave the legal option and let him live with the bad he did to you. His karma might get him some day.    You should consider getting into psychotherapy (talk therapy) with a good psychologist and work on your hurt feelings and reach to a point where you can love a man noramally in the future and be happy again. Best wishes.

 


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I fully agree. He will pay for his mistakes, sooner or later. In Gods court, nobody gets away with anything. Enjoy your life. Look forward and leave the past. Yes it's hard I know, but you can.

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Its hard to digest the fact that nothing can be done against them. Its difficult to see them get away with this. Its true God's judgement is final. Thank you for your moral support.

 
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Hii Priya,

Though it is barred by limitation you can always file a writ petition before the High Court as it has inherent powers under 482 .


Adv. Solomon Raj,
Attorney at Law,
Bharat Gaurav samman awardee 14
AICC National Legal Chairman.
email:rajcarey@yahoo.com
phn:9866545086

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When we are hurt...we feel angry and want to take revenge .  In anger, we are unable to see the incidence from different angles.

We become consumed with thoughts of hurting the person,...who hurt us.   As far as such s*xual transgressions are concerned, there are complex psychological reason why people end up behaving this way...why they behave in risky manner.

Sometimes, the person dionot intend to hurt the other but has acted wrongly for some other reason such as curiosity, deprived of s*x, stressed due to some other cause, depression and boredom...and many more possible resons.  Somrtimes two people had subtle agreement but later, due to too much guilt feelings ...one has to put all the blame on the other.

With maturity and undestanding of meaning of such human behavior, it is possible to forgive and move on with one's life. 

Harboring a lot of anger is like keeping the fire burning in your heart...it hurts you as much it hurts the other.


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