saturation of patience
santosh kumari
(Querist) 17 April 2014
This query is : Resolved
Dear experts.
I am moving as per your kind advice since 10 December 2013.
let me summarise...me(wife of marine engineer,mother of 2.5 yr old baby girl,from rajasthan,yet not filed any case anywhere,leaving with my parents since 1 yr.survival of domestic voilence n dowery hrashment,female baby birth abusing)
In january 2014, as per ur advice..u suggestd me
1.wait till husband come bk from ship ..then go for mutual divorce.
2.take lump sum money..aaproximstely 50 lakhs for ur self n baby.if given by inlaws in single payment.
3.that time father in law came from manglore n without talking he ran bk(he is real vilian in my case..behinding making my husband behave in this way)
Now, husband was bk from ship on 15 march(i called company office.mgmt didnt disclose first to me.but latter they just told that he has signedoff)
My father in law came on leave on 22 march 2014.
I myself called ..my husband but his no coming switched off.but is visible on g-talk n facebook.
I called(on 13.3.2013) father in law..once he picked up my call...n spoke like most melodious person in yhis world.i said...that i would like to celebraye holi with u (17.3.2014).
Again i called..father in law didnt pick up my call.husband phone...off
28 .3.2014 mediator told us that they have come to rajasthan.
We said...ok..lets meet .before 30.3.2014.
next day...mediator said...better u talk.we called...no switched off
On2.4.2014...their mediator called...said ...lets me meet.
We said....3,4,5 april ..am not available.had interview.aftr that any day.we can do.
Mediator...no they will go bk on 6 april.
We said ..ok(although no good person was available ..who can negotiate)
When we asked venue....they called us in some hills like....chambaal ki ghaati.
We said...come to my place...or else we will come to ur place.
They said....no...pahadddon main
We said...ok...time ???
They..4 pm
We called our good speaker relativw.
Reached venue...on time...
They didnt come till 6.30 pm
We abt to go..they came..
(Husband n father in law+ their 20 men)
They asked money ...we said 1.25 crore
(Let me mention u..my husband's salary is 3.5 lakhs per month..already we discussed this)
They said...10 lakhs
(I moved away from venue with my good speaker uncle at 7.30pm)
Others too sat in jeep.
i reached home.when i called others.they said negotiation has reached on 25 lakhs(15 lakhs for daughter as fixed deposit...dat she eill not ask when she is 18 old for her marraige n 20 lakhs for me).n streedhan they will not give.
My blood boiled.lost control.i went bk to venue at 10.30pm....it was very unsafe place.i dont know how got courage.i went n said....u have penalised.tortured me for 4 .5 yrs.not only me but my daughtr.my family.i dont accept this.
My relayive(all budhee baba logg) scolded me before them.said...tu jyada pafhi liiikhi h iis liiye bool rahi h.chup ho ja.tallak de de.aahe badh...jane de salllon ko.
I cried...n shouted ...telling that ...nowvi will not hear anyone.no society can stop me.i will not give divorce.n will file case against u for all u did to me.
On that night ..my society boycotted me.i felt like moving away with my daughter.main bhut roiii puri raat.
All pressurized to accept 25 lakhs .but i didnt agree.
Someone said....we will tslk to them to adjust to 40 lakhs .almost 15 days passsed.
No response from in laws.now society n parents r saying...better sue the case
Dear experts....my pateince has ripen now.please light my path.!!
All time i weep.what shall i do now.( my parents shows they r in support but actually they r simple person..who dont know anything abt police action n laws)
Need ur advice now.
Thanx
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 18 April 2014
You are already advised...still you are repeating.
Take what they are giving or file criminal case and case of maintenance.
There is no other way.
santosh kumari
(Querist) 18 April 2014
Ok sir.they are not communicating now.Barman sir.. i hope ..delay in filing will not harm thia case.
1.what counter attack they can do on me.
Thanx
Biswanath Roy
(Expert) 18 April 2014
Don't be frightened about counter attack. Do follow legal action more particularly file an application for maintainence u/s.125Cr.P.C.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 18 April 2014
Do not worry about what is no there, you may proceed as per the advises rendered by expert and face the things courageously, since you have already been put into trouble, you take this also in the same stride.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 18 April 2014
accept Rs 40 lakhs offer . Rs 25 lakhs would be too low amount considering your husband is earning Rs 3.lakhs per month .
it is better you only file case for RCR .also seek maintenance . your husband will come forward and settle the case
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 18 April 2014
You have to have courage for your any your daughter's betterment. Well advised by the experts, agree to it.
santosh kumari
(Querist) 18 April 2014
Yes..i ought to be bold now.may god give me enough strength to face this challenge.please be around me with verbal guidance.Thanx a lot for awaring me (indian lady).i will settle if they offer me respectful amount.or ELSE i will face this world for what they did to me n my daughter.without thinking of consequences but would move for justice.may maan durga provide me enough strength!!
Thank you so much to all members of lawyers club.
Surrender K Singal
(Expert) 21 April 2014
GoD helps those who help themselves; Ek kadam badhao to ParmAtma hazaar kadam aakar madad karte hain; Be prudent as the occasion arises
