I was serving in Defence in Mumbai and got in touch with a girl to whom I married in June 2004 (it was intercaste) in Mumbai and our marraige was not registered. She is M.Sc and my present qualification in Graduation. Initially all went good, but after 1 year our relationship was badly disturbed by so many reasons: She is more educated, was doing a job earlier and quit that when she joined me at my duty station (i got transfered from mumbai in 2003), she thinks i should be an officer and not a mere soldier. she doesn't like my likings. our relation got worst with the time. Now it was just for a name shake. Then she started asking for separation. She started abusing me in front of my friends.
She never visited my hometown and never liked my family members. She always wanted that I should stay in Mumbai and take care of her parents as her own brother has left her father. One of her elder sister commited suicide in Mumbai in 2008.
I sometimes took drinks in our Service parties, on that night she will not allow me to enter the house, even i was forced to sleep away many times. she will break all the households. she will never hesitate to create Drama in front of the neighbourhood, even throw items on road outside the house. She never hesitated to insult me infront of her parents whenever they visited us, they also supported her.
My fault was that I wanted her to cool down and talk, she even tried for suicide 2-3 times without any reason. I have never man-handled her or even never abused her. (It is witnessed by her parents also)
My social as well family life was gone. Still we were keen to have child, and finally she gave birth to a baby boy in September 2010. Her parents were present with us. In the meantime during her pregnency also the situation got more worst. She finally announced that she will take divorce from me, and asked me to send her to her Parent's house in Mumbai. Finally she forcefuly left me 02 Jan 2011 with child.
Then she started making phone calls and threatning, abusing on phone etc. I was unable to concentrate on my job and finally took retirement in july 2011. She always demanded money from my Retirement funds which I gave her, just to maintain her. She was still rigid for Separation.
In the meantime (Jun 2011) I got in touch with a girl and knowing that my family life has ended, decided to stay with her. Now I am at my parental place i.e. patna, my wife is in Mumbai, my friend at Visakhapatnam. My family life is totally finished. My wife came to know about my affair and now she says that she wont leave me and always keeps on harrasing me, myy family members, that girl and her family members.
Is there any remedy for this........... As of now all my family members have distenced themselves (they were earlier with me and knew about my wife's behaviour, even they blamed me eallier for my marriage)