Hi I am married from last 2 years and 4 months. It was an arrange marriage and we also enjoyed the great courtship period before marriage. me and my wife home town is same but i have settled in Delhi and working in MNC. At time of marriage she was doing her Post Graduation and her internship was going on so she stayed back at the home town at my parents place though she used to visit her parents frequently and whenever me or she gets time and leaves we used to stay together. Things were good but soon she starts blaming my parents that they keep upsetting her. I used to advise my mother and her not to fight and live peacefully but these small small things keep happening as this is part of every family. i Helped her to get complete her internship and she moved to Delhi and start living with me. Also i helped her in-laws in their bad and good time like their son.
Things were fine between us and i loved her and help her doing the study for her banking sector as she wanted to get training for the same. I always love her, supported her in every means be it household things or showering love on her. Taking her out for vacation.
Some time usual fights happens between us just like any normal husband and wife but it gets over after some time or couple of days. Though she used to stay bad about my in-laws,i always used to ignore this and always advise my parents to keep quiet and they were content that her daughter in law is at-least happy with their son. Whenever she used to get home town she hardly stays at my home and soon move to her parents home but we always try to keep this simple as we never wants to make situation bad.
Some time back my father got minor heart attack and after the diagnose it was found that open heart surgery was require to change the heart valve and we decided to done it at Delhi. Me and my younger brother who is also living with me make all arrangements to get this done. Though she or her parents does not said directly to me but they always though why we are spending so much money on this Surgery as my parents were bot financialy dependent on me and my brother . But we decided to go ahead with this surgery as it was matter of my father health. So on the date of the surgery my in-laws visited to delhi to see my father but they initiated the fight with me saying my mother has said some bad things about their daughter and that fight become worse as my wife and her parents and her brother say very bad things about my mother which make me angry and i decided to slap my brother-in law but didn't as i control myself. Just imagine the condition that my father was in ICCU post surgery and on the ventilator and they fight with me.however she went away with them as my bother in law lives in Gurgaon. Next day my wife come along with her brother and father and took away all her belongings with her, Though i tried to convince them that they should try to solve any matter once my father will come after the surgery but they never listened and went away saying really bad words about me and my parents and said that they will make me go to Police station in dowry case. I decided not to call her or resolve the matter as my father was in the hospital and i did not want to make situation worse for us. Soon he gets discharge and come back to our home in Delhi. few days later he had an heart attack and he passed away.
She came at our home along with her parents but i asked their parents to leave the house as i was very angry with them. She lived with us during the ritual which went around 10 days but never spoken to my mother and never supported me emotionally but she did all the ritual which required. My mother is devasted so did me ant brother with this sudden loss of my father and we decided to keep my mother with us.After 10 days she left home again saying that she will never returned to my home again.
Please advise what steps should i take as i Love her a lot and always loved her from bottom of my heart but it also important that i take care of my Mother and my brother as i am elder son and now after my parents passed away its my responsibility to take care of them