If you are actually intended to take a Divorce, you need to be guided well.
I understand and can believe what you would be going through. There are so many cases where Husbands are being dominated but our society doesn't believe. But things have started changing and even The Hon'ble Court, understands that at some places, husbands are also the victim.
But after reading your post, I think you need to be guided well and you should take each and every step strategically. So contact a good lawyer with good drafting skills so that your part of the story can be presented well.
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Thanks & Regards
Advocate Abhishek Sinha