Hi..past 12 yrs v ve been married, kidded with 2sons, 10yr n 5yr old..things were fine first 2 yrs but it started..with time she became dominating abusive, banging the doors n flinging things around..doesnt care a dime for parents either..not a single job of house is under her responsibility..stays like a guest..not a good mother as far as imbibing value system is concerned...without a doubt she loves them beyond her life..she just shouts 24x7..ve started leaving house early n return late...several discussions during early years were organized jointly with her mom in law..n everytime..they hugged n cried n apologized n swore to start a new life...JUST 4 days it lasted everytime..after several attempts parents too drifted away from her..slowly things began to b very sour between us...i gave myself n her a lot of chances wherein we can change..but no.......today we just stay under same roof, we discussed that we shall communicate only for topics relating to children..past about more than 2 months theres no intimacy between us, but a liberal acceptance of respect, ve decided to satisfy ourselves, by doing things with the partner dressed. on a very mature discussion we found out that we cannot connect to each other anymore and both of us ve accepted this.. i cant live without my kids either..n she n me cant live together...is there any legal arrangement that may direct our children to a boarding school, and she n me may live seperate legally...want them to ve the best of education n values..but both kids living now are always under psycological pressure n fear..they sense it...it shows....just want them to breathe free..its affecting their minds..all these shouts n !!...ve given up....just imagine..i am writing this !!!!!!!!!!!!