I am a 35 yr old woman who has decided to get divorce from a husband who is incompatible in everyway. I have been a victim of domestic violence and abuse not only by him but by his family mebers too. I am discussing with my lawyer about divorce and child custody. I have a 3 yr old girl. I have some how managed to convince him for mutual divorce but each day he changes his stance. I do not think I'll be able to get divorce easily from him. I never was emotionally and financially satisfied by him. Also we never had anything physical for more than 3 years. Due to lovelessness, I started getting closer to another man. We used to chat and share many things. All my private chats with him and mails to my friends who were advising me, have been hacked by him. He now has proof with him to declare in the court that I am a woman of lose character and can demand for permanent cutody of the child. I know he is not capable enough to bring up the child as the atmosphere at his place is not congenial, progressive for the growth of the child.
Now he has raised certain terms and conditions for child's custody. He wants joint custody of the child. The conditions are;
1. Child will retain fathers name in all official documents. (I had to agree to this)
2. I will have to seek his permission if I am relocating with in or outside country.(I do not agree to this)
3. Childs religion will remain the same.(I do not mind)
4. He is not ready to give any alimony but agrees to deposit some amount for the child which will be given to the child when he attains majority. He will have his family members as nominees for the investment.(I dont need any money from him but the nominee thing could become little complicated if his family members do not cooperate in future)
I am in need of some advise at the earliest. My only concern is my childs well being and a progressive environment where he becomes a confident individual.