Marriages are made in heaven is the proverb. What do you want...living together or compromise. If you have filed case for annulment of marriage means you are determined to disconnect with her, now what is your objection when she is ambitious and making her career plans, without being depressed.
Epilepsy is not a serious disease and it can be cured with continuous usage of drugs over prescribed period of time. It is a general belief that once marriage takes place, epilepsy may go away. It is also true that once medications are stopped abruptly during the period, epilepsy may return, and entire course has to be commenced from day one. Due to side effects of the drug Epsolin, patients discontinue in the middle. (Drowsiness, forgetfulness, inactive status, irritation are some known side effects). Once the patient uses medication for the prescribed time frame without interruption, it may also go away after that period. Now these kind of tensions aggravate her disease.
Yes. It is her mistake (may be their parents) as no one will marry a girl with epilepsy, as still thre is belief that disease can be inherited. But, when all other factors like compassion, knowledge, education, general health, financial background are good, this may not be that much serious and infact less danerous than diabetics.
It is your decision. Even if members try to guide you , as you have already decided, you may not be willing to chanage your decision. Live and let live is the final advice. As advised by other members, go for diverse with mutual consent without making both lives miserable. It appears that she is ambitious and confident and she may give her consent.