hello everyone
I met my wife through online matrimony site in july 2007,we begin interacting and started to know each other, we both agreed that since she is d only child, after marriage her parents will live with us in delhi where i work along with my parents as one big family, i later found out that my wife is adopted but i still maintained that i am willing to take their responsibility like my own parents. In Jan 2008 my father was diagonsed with cancer and i had to leave my job and return to my hometown, during this time my wife provided huge moral support, during my father's treatment i talked to her parents and since they wanted the marriage asap, we got engaged in Aug 2008 ,just a month after my grandmother's death and a day before my father has to undergo chemotheraphy, we agreed for it since her parents are old and wanted to settle things inspite of such trying times for my family. Our marriage was fixed for feb 2009. I rejoined a media house in Aug 2008 in bhopal and asked my wife if she is willing to relocate from chennai to bhopal rather then delhi as it was d time of resession but she refused as bhopal is a small town. In Jan 2009 her mother was hospitalised and i rushed from bhopal to be with my wife,stayed their for 15 days and came back early feb just 2 weeks before marriage, i was sacked from my job bcoz of this. we got married in feb with our family goin to chennai to solmenise it. My wife didnt wanted to come with my family as i was told tht she needed to make payments of the marriage, which i later found out was not the case, finally we left a day after my family and relatives had left for the reception at my home town. during her stay my wife treated my family very badly and finally i had to leave my family in tears to come back and tend to her mother who had called up saying she is not well..i stayed in chennai for 2 months. My father had a relapse and i had to come back to my home town to attend him as the cancer was terminal. during his treatment in delhi my wife visited for a week , she went back and after few days she gave me news that she is expecting and i sud come and stay with her, i told her tht since my father is critically ill i am unable to do so instead i asked her to come and stay with me so that i can also take care of her but she refused, later her mother called and abused me, my father asked her to come during diwali but she refused all the while using very foul language with me, i went to chennai twice in november and december to talk to her doc as i was told she was instructed not to travel , which her doc denied when i met him, after comin back my dad passed away two weeks later.she came and went back after 13 days citing her mother inspite of all of us wanted her to stay. i moved back to delhi in feb along with my mother and unmarried sister both of whome were under depression coz of events. Since i couldnt hv left them in delhi all alone i decided to take them to chennai since my wife was in 7th month and i wanted to take care of her. as we reached chennai my mother in law started behaving very badly with my mother and sister and along with my wife started treating them very badly but we stayed as wanted to b their when our baby comes, but finally things came to such a pass that i had to leave along with my family at midnight,spent the night at the airport and came back to delhi, i went back to chennai and stayed at a hotel close to my wife's house and told her that i'll come as she needs me, i movdto her house after she said sorry to my mother on phone and also as the time was appraoching i wanted to b with her, finaly we were blessed with a healthy boy in april. i stayed at her house to b with my child and wife all the while having food outside. i left chennai in may and my wife told me she will b comin to delhi by monthend as the baby was still very young, she den refused to come at all saying she wont live with my family, i keep on askin her to come as my family has not seen my baby, i also agreed to get her a seperate house as she had wanted but she later refused to that too, in all these time with my son now turned 2yrs i have only been able to visit just thrice as i regularly send her money and its financially very draining with my bare income, i send my son clothes and toys but hvnt recieved a single picture of him inspite of asking numerous times. as things stand my family has still not seen my baby in flesh as my wife didnt even came for my sister's marriage. all these things have affected me very badly and as a result i am suffering from diabities and bp, during all the interaction my wife use extreamly foul langauge and also her mother..i hv not able to talk to my son since last november..they have named him without my consent and also had his mundan ceremony in my absence,
i need advice on what to do from fellow friends as its very difficult to live away from my son, i am still willin to forget everything and live with my wife for my son's sake, but i cant leave my old mother and shift to chennai at her place looking after her parents as i hv a job in media in delhi with no scope of job in chennai in my field coz of language.
thanks
karan
