Dowry
prakash
(Querist) 15 September 2014
This query is : Resolved
Dear sirs,
i am an engnr, working in a private company, i have made a mistake, please suggest me the solution.
initially my mind set was village girls are better than city girls, so i went to a village & seen a girl for me & committed to marry her even engagement is also over. now i am not interested in that girl because of the following reasons
1) one day i have seen a dirty massages in her mob.
2)i am not prepared to get married now, first i want to settle in life.
3) i want a girl of degree holder.
because of my financial problems i have demanded 2 lack rupees. so they said we cant offer you 2 lack rupees you can break your engagement.
now my query is that if they put dowry case on me what should i do,,?
ROHIT SHARMA
(Expert) 15 September 2014
Dear Mr. Prakash,
1. You have not as yet accepted the dowry although you did demand such amount. If the marriage is not solemnized then if you want the engagement to be cancelled then seek mutual agreement mediation and close the chapter.
2. Yes, they may file a Dowry complaint since you did demand the dowry but be utterly tactful and through elder's mediation have the agreement of engagement withdrawn by a documented affidavit by the girls parents.
3. If need be opt to have private legal consultation with this lawyer.
Regards,
Adv. Rohit Sharma.
(B.Sc. L.L.B. L.L.M.)
(M) : 0-9824047971.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 September 2014
They can file complaint against you. If such instance happen, consult your lawyer.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 16 September 2014
you have in short query disclosed fully that the laws like 498a are framed by state in order to target people like you who demand dowry and openly admit so and when demand is not met then find some arguments [i.e. now you want better educated with no dirty SMS on mobile etc] in order to walk out of marriage [before or after solemnization].
You are not innocent.
Better beg for mercy through mediators.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 16 September 2014
You have committed too many mistakes.
May God be with you.
prakash
(Querist) 16 September 2014
dear sirs,
thanks for suggestion,
now if i am ready to marry her without any demand,because its my mistake that i have committed ok, Now her parents are not agreeing for our marriage, even can they file case on me..?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 16 September 2014
why should the parents of the girl should now agree when:-
(i) you have identified that you have financial problem
(ii) you have displayed that for tiding financial problem you don not mind doing crime and demanded dowry.
(iii) you have displayed that if dowry demand is not met then you will (1) abandon the marriage (2) impute lack of character of the girl (3) raise need for graduate girl.
(iv) you have displayed that when some legal experts showed you the way ahead for people like you then you re-agree for marriage.
YOU DID SO WHEN YOU ARE NOT YET MARRIED TO HER THEY HAVE ALL THE REASONS TO EXPECT YOU TO REPEAT THE SAME (rather harsher version)AFTER MARRIAGE. They have better option to fix your entire family behind the bars.
If they make you to refund all their expenses and let you go still it will be their mercy and you shall ever remain grateful to them.
prakash
(Querist) 17 September 2014
dear Sudhir Kumar sir,
i am not such a criminal that you are thinking, if i really expecting dowry i would have targeted any rich party,not a middle class family, if i am really asking dowry i would have not commit that i will return your money when i get bonus. on engagement day they have written a agreement saying that they will give me 25thousand for wedding dress, we also committed to give 25thousand for her wedding dress. engagement expenditures are their side, marriage expenditure are our side,also we have to pay half transportation cost also.without prior knowledge we committed this, this was our biggest mistake.
just think sir how much money is need for a simple marriage in Bangalore, i think minimum 4-5 lack rupees required, i asked bit help not dowry, even i said i will return that money, i have no intention to make big property out of their money, i have no parents & no one is there to help me even a single rupee expenditure i only have to take care, therefore i am asking help to them. when i asked first time they said ok we will see, i kept hope on them, now they are saying no, you can brake your engagement. now tell me sir what should i do..?
