Suggestion and help on my marriage
Chessi
(Querist) 14 July 2014
This query is : Resolved
My love started with my friend five years back, we both decided to marry at that time itself, he approached my parents, they have rejected and i also not even stand with his side, after i forced him to marry, he got married, I do felt something i lost, and moved on my life, but we are in touch, after his marriage about a year, i came to know that he was cheated by his wife badly and somehow his wife got HIV, her mother also has it, by grace of god he and his kid not infected with that and we went multiple advanced test of HIV and HIV DNA, doctors confirmed he is safe, and AIDS control board also declared at court he is not infected after doing multiple tests, from last two years we are in regular touch and I only forced him to marry me several times, but he denied and started thinking about his kid, and fighting for kid, his divorce and child custody cases in court and it's under final hearing from several months.
Recently i have disclosed about my interest on him to my parents about my marriage which they don’t liked, and explained how i and his wife cheated him, but as parents they didn't agreed, they came on next day and took me to my relatives house, and they started abusing, beating me badly, i requested him to help me by sending SMS, while my parents bring me to office to apply for the leave, i have called him from my colleague number and have decided to go with him, but he suggested to have talk with parents and wait for their approval, but my parents started beating and abusing me on road, then he called to "100" police help line, police car came and they took all of us, i have expressed my interest to Inspector, saying i want both parent and Him,
but they have created drama and started blaming him that they will send him remand, put nirbhaya case on him etc, he explained clearly, saying he saved me as human and friend as requested by me, but he will marry me after he got divorce, all polices forced him badly and abused about his divorce case his wife HIV status etc.,and targeted his integrity, slapped and beated, and make statement from both of us that he is not going to connect with me or i am not going to connect with him in future, and my parents filed a case on him without his mistake and they took me into our house and made me house arrest, not even allowing me to connect anyone
somehow i got chance, to write this, please help me what i need do now, i want to marry him at any cost, because i am unable to think other man in my life and safeguard myself first. , please help.
I am not safe at present to staying with my parents, and getting mental disturb which is showing life threaten, wanted to stay with friends till he get divorce and then marry him, please advise.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 14 July 2014
Do not put him under more pressure. Unless he gets divorce you can not marry him.
Do wait and show some patience unless you opt for another suitable match.
Laxmi Kant Joshi
(Expert) 14 July 2014
Think with cool and calm mind if your parents are denying to marry with him then why you are not obeying to them , i suggest you find another suitable match for you and settle with him , if you will marry with your boy friend against your parents wish then whole the life you both will live in the danger of life threat from your parents side .
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 15 July 2014
Well advised by my learned friends. I do stand with experts. You act accordingly
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 July 2014
You can not marry him till he is divorced.
Your steps may make his life more tense.
Better not to have contact with him till he is legally divorced.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 15 July 2014
wait for your boy friend to get divorced first
Chessi
(Querist) 22 September 2014
Dear Sir, He got divorced, but i am house arrested, where i am unable to go outside, it's been more than two months i haven't stepped out from home, i am sure he will come to my house, if i send information, but i am expecting terrible situations where my parents again create the issues and blame him as they did earlier in police station. which i don't like to happend, because of these reasons his professional life may get distrub, as he is the Director of one of the top level MNC's.
I got pregnancy in 2014, and at the time of termination, he singed as husband in forms, will that be sufficient that he has legal right to marry me, and i have photographs and chat histories which will prove that we are in relationship.
please suggest the steps.
