Harassment by lover
dilip
(Querist) 05 January 2013
This query is : Resolved
My case is as follows-
I got married last year. and prior to marriage I had the affair with married woman who had children. her husband is on bed for life long.
It started with her social help. and almost I helped her in allrespect 2.5yrs like, talking to doctors, monetary support and moral support because she used to stay just below my house. as a social responsibily I started helping her. and helped her to the best of my effort inorder to take out from critical situation. later on she started telling her old stories ...about her relation with husband and relatives. infact she has not cordial relations with anyone neither on in law side nor her parental side. and after 2.5yrs of social help ....it turned into physical relation also and there after I always use to tell her ...its better get away as I'm going to get marry soon ...and that time she used to tell me you get marry and everything will be fine.
and I got married with other girl with whom my mariage had been fixed after 1yr of physical relation with her. after marriage I had to devote my time to my wife. and then my wife left to USA for her official project. and then again things have started
but she used to tell me that call your wife from USA and stay together how can she go to US leaving you. She used to support me in forcing my wife to come back as after marriage couple should stay together.
after several fights with my wife, she came back keeping in mind that she'll stay in india with me.
but here, She started behaving abnormally, and forcing me to focus on her, when I told I'm married not I've make my married life cool as my wife has come back. She started creating noise. and cut her hand also to threaten me. by somehow I gave her firstaid. and realised that ....Her complete mindset has change now. She does not want me to stay with my wife rather I should stay with her.
then I started making distance and told the whole story to my parents and my wife.
everybody scolded but they are with me. now every now an then ...she is scaring me and threatening me that I've used her ...but that is not true. she'll call the police or take some legal action against me.
now it is almost 6-7months, she has been doing this. and my married life and peace has gone completely.
Please advice. what should I do ?
can she make any case after 6-7months of apart. I'm not staying in my house also ...because of her. She has completely screwed my happiness...fought with my parents in my absence.
Waiting for your response ?
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 05 January 2013
This lady has become desperate and in search of companion she can go to any extent.
She has nothing ti loose though you have lot to loose.
Move to a new place. It is the only solution.
dilip
(Querist) 05 January 2013
Thanks devajyoti
I've already taken that step. going out of station for longer period.
can she take any legal action ?
Arvind Singh Chauhan
(Expert) 05 January 2013
Never accept your relation with her, otherwise she may create problem by filing complaint through her husband, for adultery or may put allegation of rape etc.
Does your wife know this all and what is her stand now ? You requires moral support from your family and from wife. Win your wife's confidence and be honest, never invite such problem.
To leave the place and hide your contacts is the practical remedy in such situation.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 05 January 2013
change ur residence.
dilip
(Querist) 05 January 2013
yes my wife and my family is aware and they are supporting me.
I'm going to do the same.
is it advisable that my parents stay near to them ?
Kiran Kumar
(Expert) 05 January 2013
really a tough situation for you.
firstly hide yourself from her then slowly move your parents out of the place.
do not take chance of keeping the parents at the same place.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 05 January 2013
I do endorse the views of Ld. Kiran Kumar.
