regarding alimony
aparna mali
(Querist) 04 October 2015
This query is : Resolved
Hi.. I am aparna working in IT industry. Currently I am on maternity leave and I blessed with a baby girl. she is one month old. But my husband did not come to meet her. In hospital he came for 5 days but when I came to my parents home, he didn't come once not any family member. Before delivery I had fight with my husband on a topic of his sister as she permanently staying with us and this information is hidden from me and my family while arranging marriage. So I don't want to stay with her. I have told him but he is not agree. Now I am not going to continue my job as I want to take care of my baby. And my husband is not coming and not contacting me. so I want suggestion how should I proceed legally in this case. Please help.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 05 October 2015
Dear Aparnaji,
Is it not the responsibility of the brother to take care of his sister.How could that be a hindrance to U?U have not mentioned whether his sister married/unmarried,employed/unemployed.
These are all small differences which unnecessarily lead to irretrievable breakdowns in marital life of both the husband and the wife.
Its a matter to be settled within the four walls of Ur matrimonial home than staying in UR paternal home.Don't try to tax UR brain with legal complications and settle the matter amicably.Whether U want to work or not it is the discretion of URself and UR husband.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 05 October 2015
I was surprised to see the heading of UR query "REGARDING ALIMONY"
P. Venu
(Expert) 05 October 2015
I am afraid you are too much of small differences. How is that you are affected by your husband taking care of his sister?
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 05 October 2015
When you have named the query as Alimony your intentions are clear. You people will think that your husband falls from the sky with all education and employment only to meet your unreasonable demands and he has to ignore his own family who are instrumental in his upcoming. If his sister faces some problem, it is his duty to support her. Why anybody should tell you before hand about their family responsibilities. These are not permanent and variable from time to time. Understand that he has his own life to live in, not that he became the slave once he married you. He and his family is right, she came to see his daughter while you were in hospital and desisted himself to visit you in your matrimonial house. Do not be too smart in family affairs. Understand that his family is your family, not your matrimonial home. Strike a reconciliation and help him in solving his sister's problem with love and affection if you really wish to save the marriage and provide your daughter with the care of both the parents.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 05 October 2015
Shri Jagga Rao has given the correct conclusion.
aparna mali
(Querist) 05 October 2015
She is married have one 8 yrs old boy and her divorce case is going on. She is making lots of mis understanding between me and my husband.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 05 October 2015
consult local lawyer.
aparna mali
(Querist) 05 October 2015
I agree he has his own responsibility but then she should not interfere in our life. She has habit of interfering each and every thing in my life. She is telling my mother in law that I am not doing proper work and so many things. Bcoz of this our family relations are not good. She should not interfere in brothers married life.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 05 October 2015
Now U have come out with a new addition.OK,wait till the outcome of her divorce proceedings.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 05 October 2015
You both need counselling. Elders should set right the things before taking drastic decision of severing the marriage bond on this pretext.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 05 October 2015
Taking the final suggestion given by expert Jaggarao,act in such a way that both the lives are not deprived of sunshine.
K.S.Srinivas
(Expert) 06 October 2015
Do not go for divorce. Do not take any hasty step of going through the legal proceedings. Talk to your husband, put-forth your problems being faced by you from his sister and try to sort out these problems. This could be possible only by winning love and affection of your husband. Try. Good Luck.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 06 October 2015
You are staying with your patents due to differences with your husband, you may also be having your brother and sister-in-law (bhabi). You have objections for stay of your husbands sister (nanad) with your husband as her divorce case is pending. Her stay is not acceptable to you. But in your case, under same situations your stay is justified in your eyes. Probably you are using foot rule of 18" in your case and of 6" in case of your Nanad / husband.
Try to adjust and prevent spoiling life of your husband, your daughter and yours as well by adopting positive approach.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 11 October 2015
I think all the experts above have advised very well and the author is convinced about the issue. This is a simple matter which can be sorted out within the four walls by openly talking with each other and adjusting within themselves on petty and silly issues. Handle the sensitive issue very carefully lest if allowed to develop, it will blow out of proportion to a stage beyond control.
