|Originally posted by : Sundarkannan
||I am north indian woman. I got married just 1.5 months back to a tamil brahmin boy.I was not told about husband's bad habbits before marriage. Husband and his family lied to me any family that boy is vegetarion , non alcohalic , non smoker. just aftre 20 days of marriage husband started drinking, smoking almost everyday. in drunk state he is raising hand at me. he is not letting me speak to anyone and trying to control me. in anger he becomes violent.
husband has taken approx 10+ lacs rs from me before marriage for repaying his debts. afeter marriage he took 2 loans approx 9 lacs on my name. His family knew about his bad habbits and vilent behaviour but no one told me before marriage that he is like this.
He is not even giving me on legal doc that he has taken this much money from me. not he is getting marriage certifiacate. I am not feeling secure with him. He lied about his debts also.
Please do suggest what best step i can take in this sitaution to make my life secure?
Buyer beware says contract law, OLX tells this to each and every user.
Once sold cannot be returned, exchanged, no guarantee is a common board seen in electronic shops which sell china maal.
In marriage one can return product. For that you need to get decree from court called as divorce decree. You apply jointly, you get it in 6 months time provided 1 year of marriage over.
You apply individually, you might get or not get divorce in this lifetime.
Your money paid before marriage is gone. Your money paid after marriage is also gone.
Both are long term investment to save your marriage.
But nowhere you seem to wish to save your investment. That’s a pity.
He raising his hand on you is condemable. You should not speak to drunk people. They will at best shout or hit with whatever they get. Stay away when husband is drunk and put plaster on your mouth on those times to avoid any injuries.
Divorce is a best option. Adjustment is the only option if divorce is not on your mind.
Two ways there. Divorce. And adjustment. Which one to choose, where to speak, when to speak is left to your prudence.