Dutch man marrying an indian lady in the netherlands

The United Nations General Assembly adopted the Convention on the Elimination of All forms of Discrimination against Women on 19th December 1979, and both India and the Netherland became a party to the Convention in the year 1980. Article 15  of the Convention accord to women equality with men before the Law,, while Article 16 of the Convention provides measures to eliminate discrimination against women in marriage and family relations. You can go through the Convention and the Two Optional Protocol to the Convention. 

There is no legal requirement to change her name, if she is unwilling.

If you do not intend to have a "family" or "property" why do you want to marry ?

Your second query "2. Does the marriage still need to get registered in the Indian Embassy? Yes, in Netherland, under FMA 1969.

Thank you Mr. Assumi for your feedback. I just called the Indian Embassy in the NL and the person there said that name change was not mandatory and that the marriage does not need to get registered in the Indian Embassy. The marriage will be solomonised at the local Municipality and I will get an internationally recongnised certificate. Would this be sufficient?

As far as filling name of spouce is concerned such additions/deletion to keep taking place.

CEDAW has made it clear that change of spouse name is not mandatory as women has been given the right to choose her name, as for any Indian citizen marrying outside the Indian territory or outside the country has to complied with the FMA 1969, that is marriage before the Marriage Officer appointed by the Government of India by Notification in the Official Gazette. 

Can you please guide me how did you marry a Indian women because even we are in same situation and facing lots of difficulty like visa issues.  Will kindly appreciate your advice and the process we can follow 

In India, there is no legal or mandatory requirement that the name of the wife be changed, though custom or usage prevails in some parts of the country.

As to the question of registration, the norms where the marriage is solemnised, or taking place, would apply.