My family's against love marriage

Aditisingh (Querist) 02 September 2015 This query is : Resolved
I am going to complete 18 on 26th of September and my boy is 22 we are together since 6 years my family is against him and thinks that he is not good for me But the actual problem is he thinks our castes doesn't match and since we live in the same area according to my dad I cannot be with him my is totally against us He will do anything to separate us but since we don't want to hurt our parents and stay together wnt dem to knw we love each othr

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Aditisingh (Querist) 02 September 2015
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Anupam Lahiri (Expert) 02 September 2015
Aditi,
This is a purly personal problem of love matters. You have all rights to love any boy and marry him if you wishes.

At the same time you are also attached to the wishes of your parents. Again, you are only 18 now. Why are you in a hurry to be in love. You should go ahead with your studies and be established.

If there is any legal advice required, the same would be given in due course of time.

Rajendra K Goyal (Expert) 02 September 2015
Marring to a beloved is totally personal decision. Legally love marriage is not banned.

However, your parents always think for the benefit of yours, they are the only person who would always care / protect / guide / think for the best of yours. Do not try to hurt their feelings.

Aditisingh (Querist) 02 September 2015
Exactly I dunt wanna hurt them .. but ofcourse I wnt them to understand me .. just becuz he is of diff caste he won't let me to be with him .. and since we are together from 6 years can't stay away .. I don't want to do somthing wrong jus want change the way my parents think bout me and my boy .. I'm not running away .. I'm not doing somthing wrong .. and I don't think loving a boy is wrong .. but my dad doesn't even want to know bout my feelings and his feelings..

Aditisingh (Querist) 02 September 2015
I'm not in a hurry .. I just don't want to hide anything from my parents about me n my relationship .. but I hav to hide .. cuz I knw if they got to knw dis dey will take away my phone .. leave me at my native place and will not even try to understand my feelings .. I'm not in a hurry but I just want them to knw that I love somone and I am with him .. ofcourse I will complete my studies and think of future .. With my boy .. but just want my parents to be with me .. to understand .. are you getting me ..?..

Sudhir Kumar, Advocate (Expert) 03 September 2015
agre3ed with Mr Goyal.

the first talky film was "achoot kanya" since then the films have been preaching inter-caste marriage, marriage-out beyond financial equality etc.

If you are keen on marriage you should not care even hoots for feeling of parents. They are not the first or last parents suffering hurt and humiliation.

Even without parents consent you had been "together for six years" God knows what you mean by this.