Before you decide on accepting your wife back after having undergone a harrowing experience, you would have to consider the following:
1. What prompted your wife to file a 498a against you? This section is applicable if you/your family has been cruel to her and demanded dowry.
2. Did you try to reconcile with her during the interim perid. Were elders of both your and her family interested in reaching an amicable solution.
3. Do you have children?
The list could grow, but what is important, is the fact that you love your wife, you are willing to forgive her for the wrongs committed by her. She too realizes her mistake and desperately seeks a reconciliation.
More often than not the family plays an important role in according wrong advice, assisted by some relatives and friends so as to ensure that the husband eventually would come around and things would run smoothly thereafter.
Its always good for the husband and wife to forgive one another and start afresh. But before you do this, both of you must forgive one another, forget the past and look to the future. Let not your family members influence you or your wife.