I have got married 2 years back. My wife was in my house for few days after marriage, after that she left for her studies. We have not met after that since I am doing my job far away. Initially we used to speak a lot on phone, but later now I am feeling her as a burden. Since I did not get leaves and also it is far away I did not visit her native, I asked her to visit me but she just avoids giving one reason or another. I have doubt about her mentality & physical health condition since her father is a "ghar-jamai" & she also wants me to became like him.
I am pissed off with her behaviour & have decided not to unite again as she has wasted me 3 years of precious life, caused hugh insult before friends, family & relatives.
I tried to convince her in every way. Some 5 months back once in frustration I told her I will continue my life with some other lady, if she does not come to me within next 1 month.
Now last 5 months I am recieving following threat sms like
- we will meet in police station, telling her relatives political hold.
- false sms of allegation on me & my parents that we insulted her, in front of relatives & neighbours ( which is totally false)
She has hardly lived 7 days in my native after marriage. She made me cancel my honeymoon citing studies & examination reason. In 3 years what she has lived with me is "7" days !!!
- false sms & email she blamed me & my parents that we forced her out of my house.
- she last year admitted she has some kidney problem, she also had sent me sms that her problem is growing.
- she sent sms that she will never come to me again or never want to see my face again in her life.
- sms taunting if i am a man.
6 months back I politely asked her divorce, then she scolded me on phone. Last 6 months my life is on toss. I fear taking her phone call. She always changes her sim & calls. She sms me torture messages. I never replied to any of them. My parents have heart disease so I do not want to trouble them so I have not disclosed them about the same.
I belong to farmer family, but I do good job in a MNC, I have one uncle who is very very old & no brothers & sisters. No relatives backup so I can cope with this mental patient.
I suspect her kidney problem is reason why she is avoiding me. She and her parents have made me scape-goat.
She has deserted me past more than 2 years.
As I have made my mind to go for divorce:
- How to prove desertation ?
- What this sms can help me ?
She have given up her limits & challenged me that I come to her native to her house & speak with her parents. She also challenged me to get divorce.
I have given offer of good amount via mediator, her parents are okay for divorce, but still in worst case if she makes U-turn will this sms, emails can help me ?