I got married 16 months back, on the third week of my marriage I got to know that she was having an affair with a guy when I asked the same with my wife first she denied later she accepted that she is not a virgin and also told she loves me a lot with out her interest and because of the situations she involved in s*x for about 3 times. Considering the present generation I accepted on one condition that she should never call him. On the same night I have discussed this with their parents and siblings. They were shocked (Pretend to be) and starting convincing me with emotional if I don’t accept her they will commit suicide. Since I love her I accepted back in my life as days gone their were some miss understanding because of my behavior ( I was not talking to her for every 2 days or three days as I was mentally disturbed) I undergone many stress, depress treatments and finally I have decided to lead a happy life with her. One day her mother told me if we write any problems or mistakes in paper and submit to god by dropping that letter in any holy river, god will take care of that and we will be happy the same I have told her first she ignored even I did not put pressure as I wont believe in all those.
After some days she went to her home town, I was doing prayer in my house their I saw a letter which has some 10 – 11 pages. I got a doubt and read that letter I felt like I am dead. It’s a biggest shock for me in my life she her self requesting god to excuse her about the mistakes which she has done, the mistakes are:
- She had an oral affair ( just hugs and kisses) for an year when she was in degree with her class mate and stopped the relation
- She had a s*x for one time with one person who is already married when she was working and stopped the relation.
- She had an oral affair ( just hugs and kisses) before 3 years of the marriage and relationship was about one and half year.
- She had a s*x affair with another person who is younger than her, slept about 14 times with him. She also mentioned that they did not take any precautions for the pregnancy ( As per her she never conceived)
I called up and discussed about the letter she first said the letter is false and try to convince me when I argued with her she disconnected the call and complained to their parents that I will harass her daily, forced her to bring the liquor from the bar, I made her to write that letter( by threatening her). From that time their parents warned me, I did not discuss this with my parents or the relatives because I was worrying about the society no body knows about my wife’s character in our family. Taking that as an advantage she purposely torturing me in all the forms, like whispering her boy friends names, watching the movies of their names, underlining / highlighting the name if it appears in the news paper. I asked her why is she doing all these if did not like she could have rejected in beginning on the other hand I become to much attach to her I am in a position neither I can leave her not I can live with out her. I consulted so many doctors, no relief. I told her that I love her so much. I owed money from the banks and did all the poojas, Homas, vastu alteration etc. but nothing worked out finally I came to know that she is not interested in me. I am forced to tell my people; initially they were so supportive now no body is helping me out. 3 months back she left my place after 15 days they pass the message through our relative they are planning file 428a against me if wont give the demanded amount I am shocked again why should I give money when there is no mistake from my end and I am confident that the law will definitely support me, all those dreams vanished because my relatives are also suggested me give her the money and get rid of her because if we go to the court I have to spoil my career and money that too verdict will happen between 1 year to 8 years. Finally my uncle said what ever it is first let us call them for the discussion. They came to my house. Arguments went on and on finally they concluded that they want 8 lakhs and forced me to sign on the white paper which talks about the discussion and the amount finalized. I am trying my level best to give the money at the earliest as I am already having too many loans ( which was taken for the marriage with a tenure of 5 years) neither I am getting any loans nor I / my family has got a property. Above all these for every 1 week or so they are pressurizing my uncle to repay the money. As I said every body wants to be out from this situation at the earliest they are passing the same pressure on me for the money. No body is bothered about my health I am under depression, not having food properply, not getting the sleep properly staying alone not able to concentrate on the work her memories are disturbing me a lot. Seeing my condition my friend suggested me to do the ART OF LIVING COURSE after that I am 50 % recovered.
I kindly request to support me to get rid of the problem.
NOTE:
We are living separate from 3 months.
We don’t have children
I don’t have any proof apart from the duplicate copy of the letter which she wrote to god and her last boy friend missed call in her mobile.( Presently mobile is with me)
I am not financially sound.
